by teaandrosemary2 | Mar 30, 2021 | Astrology
Venus-Pluto aspects are intense. In fact, these are some of the most difficult aspects to have in relationships.
We all crave intimacy, but people with Venus-Pluto aspects confuse power, control, or obsession with intimacy and love. It’s hard for them to figure out what is fulfilling versus what is painful. Sometimes, pleasure and pain are intrinsically linked.
Although these Venus-Pluto aspects are all a bit extreme, they’re also transformative. If you’re willing to put in the work, your Venus-Pluto aspects can truly change your life and help you to create the kind of intimate, loving relationships you desire.
Venus Conjunct Pluto
Venus conjunct Pluto in the natal chart means that you are naturally intense in love. You experience a lot of instant attraction when you’re single and generally enter into karmic relationships.
You might feel like your relationships are unusually powerful. Venus conjunct Pluto is all about power and control. This can be a positive factor, but your partnerships also have the potential to end badly if control becomes the driving force.
Look to your Venus sign and learn about the qualities, but then realize that all of these attributes are modified by Pluto. With Venus conjunct Pluto, your Venus sign becomes more intense, passionate, and deep, but it can also be more jealous, possessive, or obsessive.
Venus conjunct Pluto indicates that it’s easy for you to fall into toxic relationships. In fact, it can be quite difficult for you to find a relationship with a balanced amount of power on each side.
You find it easy to attract partners and may not be single very often, unless by choice. However, you also attract partners who have a darker nature. You either control others or allow yourself to be controlled.
In life, not only in relationships, you are attracted to mystery and seduction. The darker side of things is intriguing because of Venus conjunct Pluto.
Venus conjunct Pluto can lead to destructive, toxic relationships if you have other difficult elements in your chart. The lower your self-esteem, the more likely you are to stay in a harmful partnership.
At the extremes, Venus conjunct Pluto means that you may become a victim of betrayal or abuse. This can be a truly difficult aspect, depending on the signs and house.
However, you’re also drawn to people with a dark side, including those with addictions, a painful childhood, trauma, mental illness, or abusive behaviors. How this plays out will depend on the sign and house that Venus conjunct Pluto is in.
In general, you are drawn to those who seem unlovable by the outside world. It is the power imbalance that fuels you, although you aren’t necessarily seeking power for yourself.
It’s hard for you to distinguish between pain and pleasure. You may chase pain because you think that it will bring you the intimacy you crave, then you feel let down when this believe is revealed to be false.
Ultimately with Venus conjunct Pluto, you simply want intimacy and loyalty. These qualities are difficult for you to find because of your relationship methods. Most of your partnerships feel vaguely dark, intense, or obsessive, and you just don’t know how to turn a relationship into what you desire while maintaining the intensity.
You have transformative relationships, for good or for bad. To transmute Venus conjunct Pluto and use this aspect for its highest good, you must first develop a sense of self.
Once you have self-worth, you will start to attract partners who transform you in a positive way. In fact, Pluto conjunct Venus can be truly transformative like nothing other placement.
Eventually, you will transform yourself through relationships. Keep in mind that this takes a lot of work. You will need to continuously say no to relationships if you’re not getting what you deserve.
Once you do find a partner who you feel you can trust, there will still be some mud to slog through. Venus conjunct Pluto never disappears, but the lessons will be less cruel and more uplifting. This is when you will be transformed for good.
Venus conjunct Pluto means that you have the potential to transform yourself through love. This can be self-love as well as romantic.
Venus Trine Pluto
Venus trine Pluto is a much easier aspect than the conjunction, but it can also create a variety of issues. After all, almost no aspect with Pluto is truly easy.
With Venus trine Pluto, you are drawn to intense relationships naturally. You know when you feel it for someone and you’re all in. You probably experience a lot of love at first sight.
Around others, you appear powerful and confident about yourself. This creates a magnetic aura that attracts those who enjoy basking in the glow of power. People are naturally drawn to you.
You probably love the attention that you get because of this Venus trine Pluto placement. Even though it’s an easier placement, you can still go too far when you’re enjoying your natural power. You’d like to have the upper hand, when possible.
You aren’t superficial in love. Venus by itself can indicate superficiality, but Venus trine Pluto creates a deeper, more intense nature in relationships.
Unless you have other aspects that dilute it, Venus trine Pluto usually means that you’re very sexual. Most sexual experiences feel natural to you, and the dynamics of power and control don’t scare you.
The best part of Venus trine Pluto is that you’re naturally growing throughout your life. This mainly happens through being in relationships. You’re always questioning things, always digging deeper, and continuously figuring out what love means to you. This isn’t as painful as some of the other aspects, but is simply a natural part of your existence.
Venus trine Pluto is a lovely aspect because you reap all of the benefits of the transformative nature of Pluto without as much of the pain. You may still feel obsession or encounter control issues, but these problems are easier to work through.
Venus Sextile Pluto
With Venus sextile Pluto, you have the opportunity to transform yourself through relationships. Although you are naturally attracted to transformational relationships, whether they are happy or painful, you must seize these opportunities and do the work in order to morph into the highest version of yourself.
You probably feel quite intensely with Venus sextile Pluto. Love and relationships are really important to you. Your partnerships are never without a degree of intensity.
However, with the Venus sextile Pluto aspect, you can simply ignore these qualities if you wish. Your soul wants to transform through relationships, but whether or not this happens is up to you.
To properly utilize Venus sextile Pluto, you should first work on your inner being and find your sense of self, then begin to define what a relationship means to you and what you would like to gain from love.
Venus Opposition Pluto
With the Venus opposition Pluto aspect, you experience instant attraction. Your relationships are extremely intense right from the start.
Once you’re in a relationship, you then deal with manipulation and control. In fact, you typically feel powerless in relationships, so you must turn to manipulation to get what you need.
It’s easy with Venus opposition Pluto for you to get caught up in trying to make things “appear” a certain way. You may ignore what’s truly going on in the relationship.
Venus opposition Pluto means that you want an air of beauty, so you pretend that there is no darkness underneath. This is ultimately because you don’t respect yourself enough to set boundaries and stop putting up with the control or anger from your partner. You believe that the relationship appearing perfect is the best you can get.
Power struggles are common in your relationships if you have the Venus opposition Pluto aspect. You may feel that you have to give up your personal power in order to actually have a relationship. You respond with manipulation or passive-aggressive tactics because this is the only way you can regain a semblance of control.
You probably feel that others don’t actually love you. In order to feel something like love, you must coerce others to show appreciation. Love and power are confused in the Venus opposition Pluto relationship. You’re not sure if someone having power over you means that they love you, or if you love them.
With the Venus opposition Pluto aspect in your natal chart, you actually meet the darker side of yourself in relationships. This shadow self shows up in your partners, however it actually reflects what lives inside you. Relationships are a good way to work through your inner demons, but you may start to see your partner as a representative of you rather than a separate individual.
It can feel almost impossible to separate from a partner. This is because you begin to see them as an extension of you, so no matter how hard it gets, you feel that you would be losing a piece of yourself should the relationship end.
You simultaneously have a fear of being dissolved through relationships. With Venus opposition Pluto, you see your relationships as a reflection of yourself, so it’s easy to forget where you end and your partner begins. This can cause you to disrespect yourself in relationship.
It’s important that you learn to stop letting others manipulate you. You’re always at the risk of being taken advantage of. In extreme cases, this can result in physical or sexual violence, so it’s essential that you learn to set clear boundaries.
With Venus opposition Pluto, the most important lesson is to figure out that your partner is separate from you own core self. You must develop a stronger sense of self in order to see this.
The first step is to become less concerned with how you appear and what your relationship looks like. Focus more on what’s actually underneath. What is the relationship truly made of? What do you truly want out of love?
As you work on your inner child and sense of self, you will begin to answer these questions for yourself, instead of answering in a way that makes your relationship look ideal.
Venus Square Pluto
At its core, Venus square Pluto simply means that love hurts. This is a difficult aspect to have in your birth chart.
This doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to deal with. In fact, Venus square Pluto can be transmuted. It’s possible to have a truly beautiful relationship when you come out on the other side! This simply takes a lot of work.
You are attracted to “bad” types, whatever that means for you. This is because you mistake power and control for intimacy. It’s difficult for you to tell the difference between obsession and love.
Venus square Pluto means that you don’t know how to get your needs met in a relationship. You simply haven’t learned the skills that you need to adequately express yourself.
This Venus square Pluto aspect creates a feeling of being perpetually stuck. You are torn in between the sweetness of Venus and the fear and control of Pluto.
In a relationship, manipulation may be your defense mechanism of choice. You probably don’t feel secure in relationships very often. You may feel ashamed because you have basic needs. Instead of asking for what you need, you manipulate your partner to try and gain it. This doesn’t often work and is actually a method of self-sabotage.
You simply don’t know how to get your needs met; you may not even know what you need. It’s difficult for you to say what you mean or to even figure it out for yourself. Of course, this is where you must begin the Venus square Pluto work.
Vulnerability is difficult for you. You feel vulnerable almost all of the time in relationships, even though you also desire intense, deep emotions. You get extremely defensive at the first sign of a slight because it’s so difficult for you to reveal these parts of yourself.
With Venus square Pluto, you really just crave intimacy, but you don’t even know what this means. You were born without the basic skills to have a happy and successful relationship, so these are things you need to develop now.
Your relationships are black or white. Venus square Pluto means that you might love then hate, or swing back and forth quite rapidly. You can be controlling or paranoid with your partner. Sometimes these fears are warranted, based on the characters you attract, but it’s hard for you to be grounded in reality and figure out what’s true. You might even feel like your intuition is simply missing when it comes to relationships.
A lack of boundaries is one of the biggest issues with this Venus square Pluto placement. When you’re in a relationship, you don’t know how to differentiate between the feelings of your partner and your own emotions. You are either overly dependent or attract partners who must depend on you.
Venus square Pluto is all about fear. Your terror keeps you from truly going deep, so you manipulate others on a surface level to avoid looking at the things you’re afraid of. Although you desire close bonds, you also feel extremely vulnerable when things get too intimate.
Typically, your relationships get quite heated. They can be full of anger, fighting, power struggles, control, and manipulation. You’re never quite satisfied with your relationships, but Venus square Pluto makes it hard to know what you do want. Both sex and love are used as weapons with Venus square Pluto. True intimacy is rare; you may not even know what it is.
You probably love forbidden things or go after forbidden partners, but this is only because you’re substituting the idea of taboo love for true intimacy. You might think that if your partner is obsessed with you then they love you, yet this is not the truth.
Venus square Pluto means that you are either controlling or controlled. You might obsess over your partner, or you find partners who are jealous and obsessive towards you. Sometimes, it’s a bit of both. You need a certain level of intensity in a relationship in order to feel anything, so you may actually think that obsession is good.
It is this very intensity that can bring about positive transformation. Your core self must be transformed through relationships. Fear must turn to love, but this takes a lot of growth. In order to do this work, you must actively be in relationships. This is the only way to bring about the intense transformation that Venus square Pluto demands.
You may fear introspection, but it is necessary to learn. Venus square Pluto takes a long time to transmute. You will have to figure things out one at a time, learning lesson after lesson in relationship. Don’t shy away from pain; instead, learn from it. Dive deep and do everything you can when something difficult happens to figure out how you feel and why.
Eventually, you can have extremely fulfilling relationships, even with Venus square Pluto. You will certainly know a lot more about yourself by the end! With the right partner, after doing the work, you can see into your partner’s soul and been seen for who you truly are.
With Venus square Pluto, you must learn to love yourself before you can learn to love others. You must also figure out how to be vulnerable. Once you have a sense of self-worth, you will find that vulnerability is much easier. Work on your core self and develop your own sense of self. You will then have your own mind and intuition as the basis of any relationship.
by teaandrosemary2 | Mar 26, 2021 | Astrology
In astrology, Saturn is the serious, mature individual, while the Moon is the inner, emotional self. These two are virtual opposites, so in the synastry chart, Saturn-Moon aspects can be quite difficult.
However, these aspects are great for growth. If you see a Saturn-Moon aspect in your synastry chart with your partner, you’ll know that you have an opportunity to learn a lot from each other.
With any of these Saturn-Moon aspects, the Saturn person feels mature, serious, and reserved, while the Moon person can be over-emotional or childlike. It’s easy for the Saturn person to feel overwhelmed by the emotional nature of their partner, yet the Moon person can also feel emotionally oppressed.
Ultimately, these aspects are like relationship-glue. Even if both partners are unhappy, they’re often drawn to stay together. Saturn creates long-term relationships. However, the success of the relationship will depend on the emotional maturity of both people.
Any Moon-Saturn aspect sign can be used for good, but it takes work. If both people are emotionally immature, then even the Moon trine Saturn synastry aspect will feel difficult and painful. If both partners are emotionally mature, then even the square aspect can feel easy. These aspects depend quite a bit on where both people are in terms of managing their own emotions and needs.
Although these Moon-Saturn aspects are difficult and painful, they also help you deal with your issues in a relationship. If you have one of these aspects, then you can be sure that you will be pushed to learn and grow.
There are typically issues of dependency and security with these aspects. One or both people may feel a heavy sense of responsibility, or they may even act out parent-child roles.
Keep in mind that all of these Moon-Saturn aspect descriptions depend greatly on the signs of the planets. For example, a Capricorn moon sign will be able to deal with these aspects more easily because they aren’t too emotional. Their emotions won’t trigger Saturn as much.
However, a Cancer moon sign is someone who needs a lot of emotional support, so the lack of nurture from the Saturn partner will create more problems.
With any Moon-Saturn aspects, the Saturn person has the tendency to be cold or rigid. They may shut the Moon person down or withdraw when their emotional reactions feel too extreme. However, they can also bring structure to the Moon person and learn to stick up for themselves instead of retreating.
The Moon person has the tendency to be over-emotional, illogical, or even manipulative. They probably try to force the Saturn person to adhere to what they need emotionally instead of looking at the relationship as a partnership. Ideally, they will learn emotional balance, self-sufficiency, and how to better explain and obtain what they need emotionally. They can also learn how to balance their own emotional needs with those of their partner.
Moon Conjunct Saturn Synastry
The Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect indicates a serious, heavy bond. This relationship has a strong air of responsibility. These partners may also feel bound to each other in some way.
At times, the Moon person can feel limited with the Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect. They might intuitively know that they can’t express the full range of their moon sign, or that they must hide their emotions in some way.
This is because the Saturn person limits without even realizing it. The Moon person might feel constrained in some way, especially in the sign/house that this Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect sits in.
Sometimes, the Moon person also feels the need to censor their feelings of dependency. They feel that the Saturn person doesn’t want them to appear too dependent or needy.
However, the Moon person greatly desires emotional intimacy with this Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect. They feel blocked from truly sharing their emotions in some way, whether this is because of external karmic reasons or because they know the Saturn person doesn’t wish for emotional closeness. The Moon person is probably scared of being “too much,” though they can’t help revealing their emotional nature at times.
Any relationship with this Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect can be serious and long-lasting. Sometimes, this aspect is the glue that holds a relationship together. The bond can be a bit painful, but it’s also strong and keeps both people coming back to each other.
Ultimately, this relationship can work for the better. The Saturn person can learn to be careful with the emotions of the Moon person. The Saturn individual can also help to give the Moon person direction in life.
The Moon person can learn healthy dependency and how to be with another person without becoming codependent. This is a painful journey for both people, but this Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect can create a great life-long learning opportunity.
This placement is all about balance. If you have this Moon conjunct Saturn synastry aspect and are the Moon individual, be careful not to censor your emotions too much. It’s essential that you share your true feelings without going overboard, or you will start to feel trapped.
Moon Trine Saturn Synastry
With this Moon trine Saturn synastry aspect, the Saturn person is probably a grounding force in the relationship. They can help direct the Moon person to stay on their path and to work for their goals. In the best case scenario, Saturn is a gentle guiding force.
The Moon person probably feels that the Saturn individual is a stable and secure fixture in their lives. This Moon trine Saturn synastry aspect is all about emotional stability.
This Moon trine Saturn synastry aspect means that both partners may invest in each other emotionally. They take each other quite seriously, so there’s a lot of promise for a long-term relationship with this aspect.
In some sense, both partners are there for each other. The Saturn person is a constant for the Moon person; they can always rely on them. Sometimes, the Saturn person gives more to the Moon person than they receive back, but they probably don’t mind very much.
This Moon trine Saturn synastry aspect creates the glue of the relationship. It makes these partners want to stay together and work through their issues. The relationship could get boring or stale over time because it can become very routine.
Moon Sextile Saturn Synastry
With the Moon sextile Saturn synastry aspect, there is an opportunity for both people to develop healthy emotional maturity in the relationship. However, this doesn’t come totally naturally, and this couple may need to work for a fulfilling end result.
The Moon individual can help the Saturn person work through their karma. The specifics of this karma will depend on the sign and house of this person’s Saturn sign.
On the other hand, the Saturn person can help the Moon to mature emotionally. They bring the structure and stability that the Moon person desperately needs.
With this Moon sextile Saturn synastry aspect, the Moon person can appear emotionally immature compared to the Saturn person. However, this relationship is a lovely opportunity to teach each other things that both people need to mature and grow.
This Moon sextile Saturn aspect can also mean that there is an opportunity for both people to work through issues with their respective parents. Sometimes, the couple is actually acting out parental roles when they first meet. The relationship will bring up issues of dependency or security, but this couple can work through those problems if they work to tackle them.
Ideally, the Saturn person will bring structure to the Moon individual. They will stick up for themselves and find time to work on their own feelings instead of taking on the Moon person’s emotions, which gives the Moon person the opportunity to mature emotionally.
Moon Opposition Saturn Synastry
This Moon opposition Saturn synastry aspect means that these individuals have opposite reactions to circumstances. The Saturn person might appear overly rigid while the Moon person seems too emotional. When things happen in life, each person simply cannot understand why the other reacts in the opposite way.
In the relationship, the Saturn person can be domineering while the Moon individual is overly emotional or even childish. The Moon person might try to find happiness in the Saturn person instead of within themselves.
Sometimes with this Moon opposition Saturn synastry aspect, there is fear surrounding the stability of the relationship. One or both of these people might feel insecure or have a deep inner fear that the other will betray them.
Typically, the Moon person is afraid of being vulnerable or emotionally injured. The Saturn person fears losing control or getting stuck in an unstable relationship.
Both people with this Moon opposition Saturn synastry aspect may need a lot of reassurance in different ways. This relationship can quickly become emotionally draining, but this is because neither person is getting to the root of the problem and working on their own issues. Instead, they try to change the other.
The goal in this Moon opposition Saturn synastry relationship is for the Saturn person to learn how to work with others’ emotions instead of shutting them down. The Moon individual needs to find happiness within instead of clinging to the Saturn person in order to escape their own unhappiness.
Moon Square Saturn Synastry
With this Moon square Saturn synastry aspect, the Moon person usually feels limited by the Saturn person. The Moon person responds to situations in an emotional manner and may feel judged by the Saturn person when they have these knee-jerk reactions.
The Saturn person might see the Moon person as oversensitive or too defensive. They may feel that there’s little room to share their own feelings because the Moon person’s emotions are seen as more important. Ultimately, neither person feels totally comfortable opening up to each other.
This Moon square Saturn synastry aspect can be extreme with either person. For example, the Saturn individual could be extremely cold and controlling, or the Moon person could be incredibly oversensitive, manipulative, and illogical.
Sometimes, both people are at the extremes, although often one individual is more extreme than the other, depending on the placement, sign, and house of the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect.
With this Moon square Saturn synastry aspect, the Saturn person must learn to work with the emotional nature of the Moon person. Although the Moon person isn’t always rational, they usually have a good reason for what they feel underneath. The Saturn person needs to dig to figure out the Moon person’s true motives.
On the other hand, the Moon person must learn that the Saturn person does need structure in place over time so that they know what to expect. It’s painful for them to be at the whims of the Moon individual’s emotions.
This Moon square Saturn synastry aspect has a lot to do with understanding. If it feels like both people are always on opposite pages then therapy can be helpful. Both parties have very different types of emotional expression, but they must work to understand how they each feel and express their feelings before there will be true contentment in the relationship.
Illusions can be stripped away with hard work. With the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect, both people don’t understand what lies at the core of the other. They must dig to learn the other person on a new level. It is uncomfortable work, but this aspect can push both towards intense emotional growth, if they’re willing to put the work in.
Related:Venus-Pluto Aspects In The Natal Chart
by teaandrosemary2 | Mar 24, 2021 | Witchcraft
The term hedge witch is incredibly popular right now. The hedge witch is pictured as the solitary shaman working alone at the edge of the forest. However, hedge witchcraft is an eclectic practice with so many elements.
Today I’ll be delving into my experience as a hedge witch, but you should keep in mind that this is all based on my own practice and research.
Ultimately, no witch needs a label. These characterizations are just human definitions.
However, labels do help us contextualize, sort, and understand how we can proceed in our practice. I feel that a label is solely for your own benefit and can change or morph as needed. Feel free to alter anything I say here if it doesn’t resonate with you!
Definition Of A Hedge Witch
The traditional hedge witch, if you can even use the word traditional, is someone who is a Seer, Shaman, and witch all in one.
Historically, the term hedge witch was used for anyone who lived along the fringes of a village, behind the hedgerows. The village was on one side of the hedges and the unknown, “wild” beyond was on the other side.
These were the solitary men and women who acted as Shamans and witches in daily life, such as in the home and hearth, but who also offered divination or healing services to those in need.
However, hedge witch has always had a type of double meaning. Terms like hedge crossing, hedge riding, or hedge jumping all refer to the hedge witch venturing into another realm while keeping one foot in the mundane world.
Divination is almost always involved in the hedge witch’s practice. Seeing “beyond the veil” is really important for most hedge witches. This can refer to astral travel, the Otherworld, or various other realms depending on the tradition and belief set the witch is working with.
The term hedge witch is experimental. These witches practice folk magic that is passed down or learned through trial and error.
Although most hedge witches in history were Celtic, Anglo Saxon, or Greek, the fundamental properties of the hedge witch can apply to virtually anyone from any culture. The hedge witch is quite eclectic in his/her practice.
Most hedge witches work alone because they don’t conform to any one traditional. The magic that they practice is results-based. If something works, a hedge witch will repeat the process, and scrap rituals that have no practical effect.
The hedge witch respects both the old and the new traditions because they base their practice on practicality rather than on ritual alone.
For me, the whole purpose of practicing hedge witchcraft, much like folk witchcraft, is achieving actual results. Trial and error is a huge part of this
Because the hedge witch is so eclectic, they can be a psychic, medium, healer, witch, counselor, herbalist, and Shaman all in one.
The hedge with works with the space between life and death, but they also partner with the rhythm of nature. Herbs and green witchcraft are important when it comes to hedge witchcraft.
Animals, plant spirits, and nature spirits are all important to the hedge witch. These beings bridge the gap between the physical world and spiritual realms.
Common Hedge Witch Practices
Typically, hedge witches make the home and hearth the center of their magical activities. Daily acts are infused with magical intention.
For example, cleaning the home is actually spiritual cleansing. When the hedge witch waters their plants, they are bonding with the plant spirits.
Hedge witchery is all about trial and error in small ways. The hedge witch will change something small in the home and see how the energy manifests.
The natural world is also the root of the hedge witch’s practice. Green witchcraft is often incorporated on a daily basis in small ways.
Most hedge witches build relationships with plant spirits, mineral spirits, and the earth. There is a connection for for these witches between the earth and the spirit world that is fluid; they are one in the same.
In fact, hedge witches see herbs, plants, and minerals as separate spirits. Animism is typically popular in hedge witchcraft. The hedge witch will speak with the spirits of the trees, engage with critters outside, and generally form bonds with the earth around them. The seasons and cycles of nature are very important in hedge witchcraft.
Many hedge witches work as shamans. They may engage with the spirit world through trance or by altering their consciousness in some way.
Unlike many witches, hedge witches actually want to travel to other realms. Astral travel is very common as is experimentation with different types of hedge jumping, such as entering the dreams of others or various spirit realms.
Ancestor and spirit veneration is also quite normal for hedge witches. If you’re interested in working as a hedge witch, ancestor communication is a great place to start. Ancestors are very safe spirits.
However, hedge witches may also work with deities, spirits, angels, demons, and more. Although they’re typically solitary witches, they do tend to partner with many types of spirit beings.
Hedge witches tend to find power at borders. For example, some witches work on the border between the city and the country, at the edge of the water between the ocean and the land, at a crossroads, or using the energy of both the earth and the sky/air. The cemetery is another border (between life and death) that some hedge witches utilize.
How To Be A Hedge Witch
Working as a hedge witch is a great practice to explore if you feel a connection to both nature and the spirit world.
I personally love working as a hedge witch because I’m able to explore the physical and the spiritual realms at the same time. It feels like I’m combining many different pieces of myself when I practice the craft.
However, being a hedge witch is not for the faint of heart. It’s definitely not always light and fluffy. Hedge witchcraft can be pretty intense and wild at times.
To begin, I recommend working in your home. Invite in a house spirit, cleanse your home, and reinforce your wards weekly. You need to create a safe haven before beginning any type of spirit practice.
Spend time working with the spirits of plants and crystals in your house. If you don’t have any plants, this may be the time to pick out an easy plant to care for in your home as well as some crystals. Speak to the spirit, ask it where it would like to be placed, how much care it wants, etc.
Green witchcraft is a good foundation if you want to be a hedge witch. Do some theoretical study on the properties of different herbs and work practically with the spirits of these plants. Kitchen witchery is also fun and safe to experiment with at home.
It’s also good to infuse a bit of magic into your daily routines. Make cleansing, bathing, warding, and grounding regular activities.
Hedge witches are in-tune with the seasons. Do some research into seasonal holidays and festivals of different traditions and try various activities that correlate to nature.
For example, in the spring, I tend to clean, cleanse, prune my plants, etc. As the natural world wakes up and becomes more active, so do I. In the fall, I do a lot of introspective spirit work that can be a bit darker; I also work with the shadow self and perform rituals.
Many hedge witches like to focus on healing. If you’re interested, you may want to learn about the medicinal properties of herbs as well as the spiritual properties. Start with simple concoctions such as tea or herbs to help you sleep, relax, or ground yourself.
Once you have the basics down pat and are skilled at defensive spells, you can begin attempting to cross into the spirit world. After all, being a hedge witch is all about traveling to other realms!
However, hedge jumping can be dangerous. You intrinsically open yourself up to beings that don’t behave in the same ways as those in our physical world.
Therefore, it’s essential that you know how to protect yourself before beginning your journey as a hedge witch. You should learn how to cleanse, ward, and banish. You should also learn how to cast a circle before you start any spell work or spirit work.
Astral travel, dancing, drumming, trance meditation, sigils, and the use of entheogens are all popular methods of hedge jumping.
Once you feel properly protected, experiment with astral travel. You can find great drumming beats on YouTube to help you travel astrally. The goal is to get into a deep enough trance that you can travel to spiritual realms.
Crystals for psychic development can help you on your journey, especially if you work with the spirits of the crystals. You can also use sigils to both ground you and enhance your psychic sight.
When you’re working with spirits, I recommend that you begin with your ancestors. Most ancestral spirits are very safe and will help protect you from beings who could mean you harm.
Once you have been working with your ancestors for some time, you can branch out and begin to contact other types of ghosts or spirits such as deities, angels, demons, etc.
Work with the spirits in your area. The spirits of the trees, flowers, and water right outside your door are available and are great to contact when you’re just beginning your work as a hedge witch.
As you advance, you may try to hedge jump into the Otherworld and work with the Fae. This is pretty advanced, so you should do a lot of research and focus on defensive magic for some time before you begin this.
However, the Otherworld is a really amazing place and you can have some incredible experiences when you begin working with the Fair Folk.
Grounding is really important when you begin hedge jumping. You can ground yourself using a sigil, a meditation, or even through incense or sound.
Some hedge witches focus on shape shifting in astral travel or in dreams. This is pretty advanced, but it can be really cool to find your animal alter-ego. A good way to start is in meditation, before you try this in the more “physical” realities of astral travel or lucid dreaming.
Daily or weekly meditation will be helpful in your work as a hedge witch. Dreamwork is also important; when you’re starting out, keep a dream journal and work with your subconscious during sleep.
Work with sigils: they can both ground you and transport you to other realms. Trance-work is also good. Practice is key here!
Herbs can be used, even benign plants, to help you cross the hedge. However, you should be super careful of substances until you really have your defensive magic down pat.
Hedge witches don’t have to use mind altering substances, although some do. Even incense or spiritual tea can help to open you up spiritually.
If you’re interested in working with herbs and substances, Mugwort is a great herb to begin with. It’s very safe and subtle but can enhance your dreams.
Keep in mind that being a hedge witch is a journey. You need to push your boundaries, but you can have really incredible experiences in other worlds and gain deeply meaningful spiritual knowledge.
Don’t worry about the “rules” of hedge witchcraft. Try all things and experience, but always protect yourself before beginning something new.
Remember that no two hedge witches are alike. What works for others may not work for you, and that’s totally okay.
Do some experimentation and find your own path. After all, hedge witchcraft is about being authentic and connecting with both the physical and spiritual world around you.
If you’re interested in delving deeper into hedge witchcraft, you may enjoy this book on hedge witchcraft and Druidry.
Related: 2 Easy Money Spells That Work + Money Spell Troubleshooting
by teaandrosemary2 | Mar 24, 2021 | Witchcraft
The word “vampire” continues to be scary across cultures. The word vampire means someone who is dangerous and alluring, all at the same time. In the spiritual community, energy vampires are thought to be just as dangerous or bad as other vampires.
Before diving into energy vampires, I want to say that I truly believe that every myth and legend has a root in reality.
Of course, pop culture twists folklore tales and turns them into something else entirely, but for every legend and fairytale, there is typically a real-life origin. I have found this to be true whether we’re talking about fairies, ghosts, or even vampires.
Although some practitioners believe that there are many different types of vampires, today I’ll be specifically talking about energy vampires.
These are the types of vampires that I have personal experience with, but energy vampires are also the most common type encountered in regular life.
What Are Energy Vampires?
The definition of an energy vampire is simply: someone or something that steals energy from you.
This is a pretty broad definition, but that’s because there are many different types of energy vampires who possess different strengths.
An energy vampire can be on the physical plane or in the spiritual realm. This means that your friend or neighbor can be an energy vampire, but you can also have entities that attach to your energy field and act as energy vampires over time. Astral energy vampires are much more common than we realize.
Some energy vampires know that they’re stealing energy from you and do this intentionally to gain power. Others do it unconsciously or subconsciously.
I find that most human beings don’t realize that they’re energy vampires, but about 50% of entities do realize what they’re doing.
Energy vampires need energy to function appropriately. They usually have a stunted or damaged energy system. They can’t generate enough energy themselves, so they must source external energy.
This doesn’t mean that every energy vampire is “evil.” In fact, some people drain the energy of others without even realizing it. They might have been born with a damaged energy system or they sustained trauma to their energy system during this life.
Other energy vampires have entities attached to them draining their energy, so they unconsciously drain the energy of those around them to try and replace their own power. It’s a negative cycle that is hard to break out of.
Sometimes, a person becomes an energy vampire because of physical ailments. They don’t have the right body chemistry to sustain energy levels over time, so they must take energy from other people.
Others do realize that they’re draining energy. These types of energy vampires use their energy-draining skills to gain power. In some darker occult practices, this was a common way to boost your own power or prestige.
Luckily, the energy system can always be healed. If you think that you may be an energy vampire, scroll to the bottom where I’ll discuss methods for grounding and healing your energy system.
Keep in mind that human beings always exchange energy on some level. When you greet someone and give them a huge, there is a brief exchange of energy.
Just being around another human means that you each pick up on some of each other’s energy. Sometimes, you can exchange energy with another person if you’re not even physically around them because you have psychic cords.
So, what’s the difference between natural human energy exchange and human energy vampires?
Any energy vampire will take a lot of energy and give very little in return. I don’t classify someone as an energy vampire unless the exchange is way out of balance.
Keep in mind that not every toxic person you know is an energy vampire. It’s possible to be toxic, narcissistic, sociopathic, etc. without actually draining the energy of other people. This is a really specific classification. I’ll go over how to tell the difference later in this blog post.
Ultimately, someone is only an energy vampire if they physically steal your energy.
There is a whole spectrum of energy vampires. Some people will become vampiric for just a short period of time (such as after a breakup when energy levels are extremely low) while others might be chronic energy vampires. Some are physical, some are spiritual, and some are simply thought forms.
Types Of Energy Vampires:
There are many different types of energy vampires, because they exist on a spectrum. However, for the purpose of this post, I’ll separate energy vampires into 3 distinct types and talk about the differences within each type.
The Human Energy Vampire
The well-known definition of the energy vampire is human. Most spiritual communities fear human energy vampires more than entity energetic vampires.
Even in psychology and science, the human energy vampire has a distinct classification.
Human energy vampires are pretty common. Many humans have damaged energy systems to some degree, so they need to steal energy from others.
Some human energy vampires steal energy just from being around you without actually doing anything. However, it’s more common for human energy vampires to take energy through words or actions. This is an easier way for energy vampires to gain energy.
Some of the most common ways for human energy vampires to take energy include:
1. Praise. These types of energy vampires will praise people to either get what they want or to make the other person feel indebted to them. This praise is not genuine and is accompanied by a vague, ugly feeling.
2. Intimidation. Many energy vampires gain energy through intimidation. They put someone else down, even very subtly, and gain energy through the exchange.
3. Guilt. This can be subtle or covert. These types of energy vampires will make someone else feel guilty and draw on their energy. They are effectively getting the person to lower their shield so that they can “steal” their source.
4. Focus On Self. If you’ve ever been sucked in by someone talking about themselves incessantly or complaining about their problems, then you know what this type of energy vampire sounds like. As you listen, they are actively sucking your energy out of your field.
5. Touch. Although we all exchange energy when we touch, an energy vampire will take a lot of energy through physical interactions. In fact, you may feel depleted after you hug or even brush against this person.
Some types of energy vampires do these things in the short term only. For example, if a friend breaks up with her boyfriend, her energy system may go off, forcing her to steal from other people. She might complain quite a bit and want more touch than usual. She probably doesn’t even realize she’s doing this, but she will naturally “right” her energy system over time.
Other energy vampires steal energy over the long-term. These are the relationships that tend to feel one-sided.
If you have a mutual give and take in a relationship with someone then it is almost guaranteed that they aren’t an energy vampire. One-sided relationships will drain you and are more likely to be relationships with an energy vampire in them.
The Entity Energy Vampire
One of the other common types of energy vampires is the entity. The term entity is relatively broad, but it generally refers to a negative spiritual being that hangs out in your energetic field.
Although not all entities are energy vampires, most of the entities who attach to you will steal energy in some way.
Initially, the entity energy vampire will attach to you because of the state of being that you’re in. This means that you weren’t warded and had an emotionally “low” moment. Your vibration was low enough that the entity could successful attach to you.
From thereon, the entity hangs out in your energy field and drains you. The longer the entity is attached to you, the stronger it becomes. For this reason, it’s ideal to get rid of entities right away.
If you have entities attached to you, it’s common to feel tired or drained. You may also have negative dreams or nightmares. Some people even feel different emotionally or start wanting things that are out of character for them.
Some entities simply hang out; you may barely notice them. Others can be powerful energy vampires and drain a lot of energy out of you. Just like other types of energy vampires, there is a broad spectrum with entities.
Over time, powerful entities can even draw so much energy that their host becomes physically ill. However, this is rare.
It’s extremely common to have astral attachments or entities. They’re like spiritual parasites. Just like we need to cleanse our bodies every so often, we must do the same for spiritual attachments.
I regularly cleanse my entities using the pendulum. I also ward myself and actively work to keep entities from attaching to my energy field in the first place.
The Vortex Energy Vampire
The vortex energy vampire doesn’t have a true name. It’s not well-known in the spiritual community, but I have personally encountered this type of energy vampire, so I wanted to include the categorization.
The vortex isn’t a human or an entity. It’s simply a ball of negative energy manifested by your own thoughts or actions.
When this energy gets strong enough, it takes on its own form. It hangs out in your energy field and sucks energy out of you, leaving you drained and tired.
The longer you continue to feel or do whatever it is that created the vortex, the stronger it gets.
For example, people in abusive relationships often have energy vortexes attached to them. When they ignore the abusive actions of their partner and stay in the relationship, the energy vortex gets stronger and drains more of their energy.
A simple way to get rid of this energy vortex is to change the feelings or actions that created it in the first place.
However, this can be relatively difficult. A short term solution is to clear the vortex using the pendulum or by doing a simple meditation. In the long term, it’s much more effective to get to the root of the problem, or you may have to clear the vortex over and over.
Energy Vampires Symptoms:
When you first meet an energy vampire, you typically won’t be repulsed by them. If you feel yucky around someone right away, this just means that they have negative energy.
Energy vampires are much more difficult to spot. Unless you’re energetically sensitive and do energy work quite a bit, you probably won’t notice that your energy is being drained until enough time goes by.
The energy of the person can feel positive or negative. However, your own energy will feel depleted over time.
Energy vampires can act totally normal, or they can be super toxic personalities. Although new age spiritual gurus tell us that energy vampires are just toxic people, I don’t find this to be perfectly representative. After all, someone can be a terrible person without actually stealing your energy.
Here are some of the things you may feel when you’re around an energy vampire for too long:
Lethargic, Tired, or Calm. These types of energy vampires suck the energy out of you just by being in the same area. If you find yourself wanting to fall asleep every time you’re around a specific person, then this is a clear sign that they’re an energy vampire. This can also be a constant feeling for an entity energetic vampire.
Migraines or Headaches. Unusual migraines or headaches, if you don’t commonly have head pains, are almost always related to energy. When I cast a spell and forget to pull enough energy from the elements, I immediately get a migraine. It’s also a tell-tale symptom that you have an energy vampire around you.
Heavy Cloud of Depression. This will come out of nowhere. You will suddenly feel like there is an oppressive cloud holding you down. You may feel less enjoyment doing your usual activities or feel that the world is less colorful.
Feeling Floaty/Not Grounded. If you feel a little dizzy or floaty then this can be a symptom that you have energy vampires around you.
Feeling Both Tired & Angry. I find that you need both of these symptoms together to determine that you were near an energy vampire. This indicator is more common around human types of energy vampires.
Sudden Nausea or Stomach Ache. If you feel a really unexpected stomach pain and can’t link it to a virus or other stomach bug, then this can be a clear symptom of an energy vampire.
Tightness In Chest/Shortness Of Breath. You may feel like you just can’t breathe the second you’re around someone. This is an indicator that you’re near an energy vampire. See if the feeling goes away when you remove yourself from the situation.
You generally need at least a few of these symptoms to say that you definitely have any types of energy vampires around you.
These symptoms will only show up when you’re physically around a human energy vampire. If you have a migraine for three days in a row, but only see someone on the 2nd day, they probably didn’t cause that symptom.
However, if you have an entity that is acting as an energy vampire, then these symptoms may be more consistent because they’re always in your energy field.
Make sure that the person or entity is actually stealing your energy. If you’re freely giving your energy away then they don’t really count as a true energy vampire.
For example, you may be the one putting yourself down or getting over-involved in other people’s problems. These are surefire ways to give your energy away. Try to keep energetic exchanges reciprocal in nature.
Keep in mind that most empaths or psychically sensitive people will be drained after being in a crowd. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you were around an energy vampire.
The more you learn about energy manipulation, the more psychically sensitive you become. This is a good thing because it means you’re getting stronger, but it also means that your energy will be drained more quickly around other people. Instead of assuming you were near an energy vampire, learn how to protect your own energy so that you don’t give it away.
I only conclude that I was around a human energy vampire if I feel at least 2-3 of these symptoms multiple times in a row. Alternatively, I sometimes feel like I’m coming down with the flu. If this happens multiple times around someone and goes away once we separate, that’s another clear indicator.
Entity energetic vampires are more difficult to spot because they’re always around you. It can be hard to tell if you have an entity attached to you or if you’re just sick. To determine this, I like to use my pendulum, but you can work with any type of divination that appeals to you.
How To Protect Yourself:
There are many ways to protect yourself from these different types of energy vampires. You simply need a bit of preparation.
If you’re dealing with a human energy vampire, it’s ideal to just separate from them if possible. Cut ties and see them as little as possible.
This isn’t always possible due to our relationships or ties with these people, so if you can’t separate permanently, there are other tactics you can try.
A cord cutting ritual is always a good place to start. There are many types of cord cutting spells online, but you can also just do a cord cutting visualization or meditation. Hopefully, this will dispel the energy and give you a chance to put up a shield.
Next, you need to call upon your protection skills. This will be essential for both human energy vampires and entity energy vampires.
Cleanse yourself (and your home, if necessary), then put up wards on both your home and your body. Reinforce these wards as needed.
With entity energy vampires, you may need to banish them. There are many different banishing spells you can try. Alternatively, you can use the pendulum to banish them through energy.
In the future, it can be helpful if you make a witch ball or talisman to keep energy vampires away. This will work for both types of energy vampires.
You can also carry crystals for energetic protection. I find that Onyx, Obsidian, Hematite, Clear Quartz, Selenite, and Apophyllite all work well.
Once you have adequately protected yourself and banished any negative energy, work on your chakras and energy system. When you generate more energy naturally, it will be harder for psychic or human energy vampires to attach to you.
Be careful with empathy. We are taught that empathy is good, but it’s also giving away your energy.
What If You’re An Energy Vampire?
No one wants to be an energy vampire. If you recognize yourself in a lot of these signs then this might be a good time to do some energy work.
Keep in mind that, if you are an energy vampire, you’re not truly replenishing your energy. You’re just trying to fill a void, but stealing other people’s energy only works temporarily.
You will feel much healthier mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically if you can heal your energy system.
The first step to healing if you think you’re an energy vampire is proper grounding. In fact, grounding is really important for everyone.
Sit in a chair with your feet flat on the ground. Picture a cord from the earth coming out of your feet or legs and tying you to the ground. You can also picture two cords; one grounds you to the earth while the other sends energy from the earth into you.
As most witches know, human beings can gather energy from the elements. For now, practice taking energy from the earth (which is the easiest element to start with) or from the flame of a candle when you’re feeling low. It can be especially helpful to do this before you’re around other people.
Long-term, you will want to work on your chakras and on healing your energy system. This is a great book for chakra healing with many valuable exercises.
by teaandrosemary2 | Mar 19, 2021 | Astrology, Venus
Venus in Libra is a placement that feel super natural. Libra is one of the rulers of Venus; both are about beauty, harmony, relationships, and all things aesthetically pleasing.
Generally, Venus shows how we act when it comes to money, our style, how we enjoy ourselves, our values, and how we attract others and behave in relationships.
Venus In Libra Characteristics
Venus rules so many areas that the characteristics of your Venus sign can have a large impact on your entire life. Here are the main ways that Venus in Libra shows up.
Money and Style:
Venus in Libra means that you probably don’t focus on money a lot. If you do, this will be because of other placements n your chart. Venus in Libra cares more about balance than about accumulating wealth.
For example, someone with Venus in Libra and Mars in Leo might care about money quite a bit, but this is because of their Mars sign rather than Venus.
Whether you dress fashionably or not, something about the way you appear feels put-together and non-threatening. You have your own unique sense of style that you never have to question.
In the area of the house that Venus in Libra is in, you’re elegant and graceful. You may even be charming. You know how to do things well without going overboard.
Anything tacky or overdone will be abhorrent to you. Grace is important in all things. You’re good at putting people at ease and your style probably reflects this.
Pleasure:
With Venus in Libra, you enjoy spending time with other people. Social interactions and stimulating conversations make you happy.
You may also enjoy art, music, poetry, writing, or culture. You have a keen mind and want to use it in some way. This can vary from person to person with Venus in Libra, but you usually need some interesting outlet or way to express yourself.
For example, one person with Venus in Libra might be into punk rock and participate in a band. Yet another may love learning, especially philosophy, and focus on a lot of reading and writing.
With Venus in Libra, you enjoy anything that feels harmonious and pleasant. In general, you don’t like discord.
You also like to please people. This will be especially evident in the area of the house that your Venus in Libra is in. It can make you happy to please others, especially the people you care about most.
Values:
You value being around other people. As a Venus in Libra person, you probably care a lot about your partnerships and relationships.
Because of this, you may go to great lengths to avoid fights. Peace is extremely important to you and is one of your core values. You’re good at balancing things in a group; you’re the person to notice when one member is unhappy.
You also care about fairness in all things, especially friendships and romance. Sometimes, this can be a bit at odds with your need for peace. Depending on the situation, you will either acquiesce to avoid fighting, or you will stand up for your beliefs to get justice.
These values will be especially evident in the house that your Venus is in.
Attraction:
With Venus in Libra, you attract others by appearing intelligent, well-mannered, and put-together in appearance. You’re also pretty witty and mentally sharp.
You have an interesting mind, but you know how to use your wit in a social way. Unlike other intellectual astrology signs, you aren’t removed from society. People are attracted to your keen sense of intellect. Your intellect is quite charming.
When you want to impress someone else, you will try to turn on the charm. You use a mix of kindness and intellect that’s very subtle. No one with Venus in Libra will want to be the loudest person in the room; you just want to be the most poised and interesting.
Sometimes, you may be a bit disingenuous when you’re flirting because you want to be liked. This can even happen in your platonic relationships.
With Venus in Libra, you’re good at “mirroring” other people and showing them what they want to see. You can easily conform to many situations, but this drains you because you must hide your true self. It also makes it difficult for other people to really get to know you.
You’re attracted to people who are aesthetically agreeable and nice. You don’t like anyone too aggressive, abrasive, or extreme. Anything pleasing is exactly what you want.
Romance, such as candles or flowers, may be important to you, but you also value good conversation and shared activities. You need a mental connection to really be into someone.
When you do meet someone you like, you’re all in right away. With Venus in Libra, you don’t like to be alone.
Relationships/Sex:
When you’re in a relationship as a Venus in Libra, you simply want fairness. You will treat the other person how you want to be treated.
Sometimes, you can go overboard with your emphasis on fairness. Be careful that you don’t keep score. Try to let reciprocation come a bit more naturally.
You might get upset if you feel that you put a lot of effort into pleasing your partner and don’t get an equal amount of effort returned. Big blowouts aren’t your style (although this is influenced by your Mars) so you quietly build up resentment. Sometimes, this comes out sideways in a passive-aggressive manner to “settle the score.”
Venus in Libra means that you really want your relationships to work. You may have a fear of being alone, so you might gloss over the bad issues. You turn yourself into a martyr, but then feel turned off and emotionally distanced from your partner.
Because you aim to please in general, you might attract bullies. This can be in a romantic manner or platonically.
With Venus in Libra, you have a very polished manner in love. You avoid aggression and overly-emotional displays. This can sometimes make your partners feel like you’re not invested, but you show your commitment through actions. It’s easy for you to go overboard trying to please your partner in many small ways.
When it comes to communication, you always want tact. Anything too uncouth or abrasive will turn you off. The best style of communication for you is fair and balanced without talks too much emotion.
Sexually, you also enjoy the finer things. You might like the whole act to be beautiful rather than aggressive or primal. In fact, you probably don’t enjoy anything super messy, although this will depend a lot on your Mars placement.
Intellectual simulation is what gets you going initially. You simply must have a good mental bond with your partner in order to feel sexual. A little romance never hurts, too!
Generally with Venus in Libra, you treat your partners how you want to be treated. If you get this reciprocation back, then you’re happy as a clam. Problems only arise when you feel that you’re being treated unfairly but don’t stick up for yourself.
Venus In Libra: Best & Worst Qualities
With any placement, there are positive qualities as well as difficult traits. No one individual will have all of these attributes because each Venus placement is unique depending on the house and aspects. These are qualities that these folks can have, but you’ll have to look to the individual to see what fits.
Best:
- Cogenial
- Peaceful
- Affectionate
- Romantic
- Poised
- Refined
- Intellectual
- Social
- Balanced
- Harmonious
- Diplomatic
- Fair
Worst:
- Non-Confrontational
- Passive
- Resentful
- People-Pleasers
- Powerless
- Overly-Attached
- Needy
- Chameleon
Venus In Libra: Man Versus Woman
This part can get a little confusing, so bear with me as I explain it. Basically, Venus shows itself differently for someone with more masculine energy than it does for someone with more feminine energy.
It’s up to you to choose with energy you identify with more. If you’re unsure, I recommend reading the description of each energy for Venus in Libra (below) and choosing what resonates with you.
Generally, in a woman (or someone with feminine energy), Venus will show how the person acts and what vibes they gives off towards others. When this person is flirting, they will assume many of the qualities of Venus in Libra. These Libran qualities will show up directly in the personality.
In a man (or someone with masculine energy), Venus will show what kind of qualities they are attracted to. How this person will act depends on their Mars sign, but their Venus sign dictates what types of energy they are drawn towards in a partner.
As we evolve and change and the gender lines blur, these distinctions become less absolute. For example, I find that most women will show a lot of the qualities of their Venus when they’re flirting, but a few of their Mars qualities will bleed through also.
It’s important to learn about both Venus and Mars. Each person has a unique combination of both qualities, although this combination may be swayed slightly depending on the person’s gender.
Lastly, a man who is ultra-comfortable with his sexuality will display many more of his Venus qualities, while a man who struggles with his sexuality probably won’t “own” these Venusian qualities, so he will instead look for them in a female partner.
Venus In Libra Man
The Venus in Libra man is charming and charismatic when he wants to be. He may not always feel that he’s the most important person in the room, but he has a witty, intellectual appeal that is quiet yet strong.
He is attracted to beauty, grace, and to his “ideal woman.” Sometimes, this man might create an image of his ideal woman in his mind. He will be disappointed when he finds that she doesn’t actually exist.
Alternatively, when this man meets someone he may “beef up” her qualities in his mind. Again, he will be let down when he figures out that the woman in reality is much different than the picture in his head.
He might also get into relationships that are shallow, or he may attract superficial women. He could create an intellectual personality for his partner in his head because he likes the physical look of the woman in front of him.
Sometimes, the Venus in Libra man has a secret desire to be part of the “it” couple. This doesn’t always work out for him, but it can be a motivation for entering into a relationship.
The Venus in Libra man won’t be attracted to the most brash woman in the room. Coarseness, crudeness, and loudness are big turn-offs for him.
Instead, he will look for someone smart and balanced. Although he is definitely attracted to looks (like any Libra placement), he also loves understated charm and simple but clean beauty. He actually wants his partner to feel beautiful rather than just appear like a trophy.
He is attracted to people who makes him feel balanced, romantically or platonically. When he feels off-kilter around someone, he will probably want to get away from them.
In a relationship, the Venus in Libra man looks for balance. He will work really hard to please someone he loves, but he also wants to be treated fairly. The Venus in Libra man will grow unhappy over time if he believes that he is giving too much. He will build up resentment towards his partner.
This man can have some abandonment issues and a secret desire to complete himself through a relationship. This probably won’t be obvious on a conscious level, but this is usually why he must be in a relationship. He will give quite a bit in order to keep a relationship, yet he becomes unhappy in the long run.
The Venus in Libra man wants his relationships to be easy and peaceful. He has a tendency to lie in order to keep the peace.
This is when his values conflict. He wants peace, but he also wants fairness and balance. Sometimes, the Venus in Libra man just can’t figure out how to have both in a partnership.
The Venus in Libra man is really sensitive to the needs of his partner. He is a pleaser and can be a wonderful person to be in a relationship with. However, his partners need to be careful to notice if he is avoiding the truth or not speaking up when he needs something.
He has trouble telling the hard truths because he doesn’t want to upset anyone or to fight. Over time, this can cause serious problems. He will build up resentment towards his partner until he fights back in passive-aggressive ways or leaves the relationship altogether.
In general, the Venus in Libra man is a really lovely individual. He is intellectual, creative, and interesting. He’s a true gentleman – he would never leave someone in trouble and has a caring heart.
The goal for the Venus in Libra man is to learn to stick up for himself in assertive, constructive ways before resentment builds up within him.
Venus In Libra Woman
The Venus in Libra woman is super perceptive. She’s sensitive to the needs of others, to what others want to her, and to the sense of give and take in a relationship.
She works very hard to keep things balanced and to be what others want. She might adapt her personality to suit the nature of the people she’s with.
In fact, the Venus in Libra woman can be something of a chameleon. She’s very good at changing the way she talks, moves, and acts in order to make other people feel comfortable.
Secretly, the Venus in Libra woman wants to be liked. It’s extremely difficult and upsetting for her when someone actively dislikes her. She will feel afraid and alone.
When she’s just getting to know a potential partner, she is very graceful and intellectual. She’s good at noticing what her partner likes about her and adapting to fit the situation.
In a relationship, the Venus in Libra woman is very skilled at smoothing ruffled feathers. She is definitely the ideal woman to keep the peace.
Ultimately, she is afraid of losing her partner and being alone. The Venus in Libra woman needs a relationship more than any other Venus placement. She feels defective or even useless without a partner.
However, she treats her partner as she would like to treated. She supports her partner’s individuality and notices the small things about them. The Venus in Libra woman just wants the same treatment in return. She wants to be noticed, too. It can be extremely hurtful for her to be ignored; she will be crushed if her partner doesn’t reciprocate her efforts.
Sometimes, the Venus in Libra woman will give her personal power away in order to stay in a relationship. When she gives up a vital piece of herself, she is left feeling powerless and empty. If something does go wrong with a partner, she may feel that she’ll never be whole again.
She wants to be admired for her intelligence and inner value. The Venus in Libra woman doesn’t want to be treated like a trophy, even though she does value aesthetically pleasing beauty. Ultimately, she wants her partner to notice what’s inside of her.
Sexually, the Venus in Libra woman might be more excited by fantasy and romance than by actual sex. She easily detaches from the more realistic elements of lovemaking and focuses on the ideal, but she is disappointed in real life when things are messy or dirty.
Other Venus Signs:
How To Master The Venus In Libra Energy
So much of the Venus in Libra energy is so wonderful. You have a really charismatic, kind side of you and truly want the world to be a better place.
In order to feel more comfortable by yourself and in your relationships, embrace your need for balance. You love equality in most things, but you must first learn to balance yourself.
Figure out when it’s appropriate to speak up for yourself instead of biting your tongue to keep the peace. You will learn the acquiescing just for the sake of avoiding conflict creates imbalance in the long run.
Instead, you must learn how to assert yourself in a kind, considerate, balanced way. Think like a lawyer but have empathy for your partner.
Learning to assert yourself will make your relationships much richer and more fulfilling.
Famous People With Venus In Libra:
Here are some of the most well-known celebrities with this placement.
- Beyoncé Knowles
- Freddie Mercury
- Prince Harry
- Grace Kelly
- Ryan Gosling
- Will Smith
- Bill Clinton
- Pablo Picasso
- Emma Stone
- Bernie Sanders
- Matthew McConaughey
- Kobe Bryant
- Charles, Prince of Wales
- Warren Buffett
- Woody Allen
- Stephen King
- Nick Jonas
- Charlie Sheen
- Lorde
- Hugh Grant
- Hilary Duff
- Hailey Baldwin
- Lil Peep
- Oscar Wilde
