Have you ever taken a walk through the woods but can’t stop checking behind you? Did you feel like you were being watched, or that the woods were speaking to you?
If you’ve ever had an experience like this, then you have probably been around the Fae Folk without even knowing it.
The Fae Folk, also known as the Fair Folk or Good Folk, are present in many areas. You probably picture a gorgeous, magical, woodsy area when you think of fairies, but in reality, they can live in a simple backyard or city park.
Who Are The Fae Folk?
The Fae Folk, also known as the Good Folk or fairies/faeries, come from the Otherworld. Within the Otherworld, there are many different factions, political “parties,” and types of fairies and creatures.
Even though you probably picture a fairy as a small, angelic being with wings, in reality, the Fae Folk are comprised of many different creatures. There is no one specific type of fairy.
Accounts from well-known witches mention pixies, elves, kelpies, fairy horses, fairy dogs, and much much more. Some beings in the Otherworld are so different that we have no human name for them. We certainly don’t have a record of every being in the Otherworld.
The fairies that you hear about the most in the witchcraft or in spiritual communities are pixies, elves, and house fairies, also known as Brownies. There are many types of fairies, but these are the types of Fae Folk that most commonly come in contact with humans.
These Fae Folk seem to move with the human population they’re attached to. For example, in North America, there are some Fae Folk indigenous to the area (such as those associated with the Cherokee Nation) but there are also Scottish Fae Folk, Irish Fae Folk, Germanic Fae Folk, and more who migrated over to America with their people.
Almost every area of the world has groups of Fae Folk who are indigenous to the region. The Fae Folk come in all different sizes, shapes, and forms; they may look very different from each other. There is no set way that a fairy looks.
The word “fairy” is actually a catchall term. It was first used over 700 years ago in the English language, but the words elf, goblin, and imp were often substituted for fairy. There was no true definition of what constituted a fairy besides someone from the Otherworld.
In our world, house and garden Fae Folk most commonly interact with humans. House fairies are usually known as Brownies, although not always. Pixies are the most common type of garden Fae Folk, while elves are well-known in Iceland and colder climates.
Of course, this is just a general rule. There are many different kinds of Fae Folk that you may discover in your area; the type of Fae you interact with depends totally on where you live.
Keep in mind that if you end up working with a specific group of fairies who abide by certain cultural rules, there are still many other types out there who act totally differently. I don’t personally have experience with all types of fairies because this would be virtually impossible! The Fae Folk or are a vast subset.
When it comes to the nomenclature, the Fae Folk or Fair Folk seems to symbolize all creatures of the Otherworld, as does the Fae or the Good People/Good Neighbors.
Fairy, in pop culture, seems to refer to our idealized vision of a Tinkerbell pixie. In fact, when we heard the word fairy, we often picture a pixie without realizing it.
For the purposes of learning, the word fairy or faery (both spellings are now used interchangeably) refers to one individual creature, although I don’t recommend calling these creatures by the word fairy to their face.
Do Humans Worship Faeries?
Unlike our practices with gods or goddesses, witches don’t worship fairies. The Fae Folk are beings of the Otherworld that you can choose to develop a relationship with, but this relationship should be a give and take rather than the sort of bond we develop with deities.
Humans don’t rule over the Fair Folk. Hundreds of years ago, peasants believed that humans were above the Fae but yet they were simultaneously afraid of them. I (as well as other witches) find that it’s better to treat faeries as equal but different from us.
The human kingdom in no way rules over the Fae Folk because they can exist independently of us. In fact, they don’t need us for many things, although some faeries enjoy forming relationships with humans.
Respect is super important when it comes to working with faeries because of this equal relationship. In contrast with spirits or ghosts, who we sometimes help to release trauma or ask for favors or guidance, fairies are neither there to support us or to ask for help from us. They’re simply part of their own world.
Where Do Fairies Live?
Most Fae Folk and faeries live in the Otherworld. Not much is known about the Otherworld besides that fact that it exists separate from our dimension or plane.
Legend says that the Otherworld is rather close to our world. It’s almost as though we live side by side with fairies but we’re in a slightly different dimension. We are still close enough to interact. In old Ireland, legend said that fairies lived on the plane just above us.
Fairies use glamours to affect what we can see. Typically, they have to hide themselves from us, because our worlds are so close.
Some Fae Folk live in nature (as we generally assume) but others live in mines, in the sea, or even in cities. There are so many different kinds of Fae; their living arrangements are just as vast and varied
Fae can also be seasonal creatures. Some Fae are active year round while others are specific to a season and rest in-between. For example, the Seelie Court tends to be most active in spring and summer while the Unseelie Court is more active in fall and winter.
I have found that the Otherworld tends to have a wild quality that we don’t possess as humans. We are more cautious and afraid. We have distinctly human emotions, but these types of feelings aren’t always present in the Otherworld.
The Fair Folk don’t always understand things like empathy, sadness, or love in the same way that we do. However, this also depends on the individual fairy. Many of the Fae Folk are quite hedonistic.
There are many beings in the Otherworld. Witches report seeing fairy dogs and horses. They are much like our animals yet quite distinct. There are some beings that we simply have no names for because they are so far outside the realm of our imagination.
It is thought that the Otherworld is more accessible to those on earth than other places, such as the Underworld. There are said to be portals to the Otherworld all over the earth. A mushroom ring is thought to be one type of portal, but many more exist.
The movie Alice In Wonderland is actually said to be a great representation of the Otherworld. In the Otherworld, the colors are brighter, the characters more strange, and time isn’t consistent.
Are Fairies Evil Or Dangerous?
When I start to talk about the Fae Folk to newer witches, I’m immediately hit with the question: “Wait, but are fairies evil? Aren’t they really dangerous to work with?”
It’s a common misconception that fairies are just totally bad. However, in my experience, the Fae Folk aren’t good or bad. They’re just individuals. Every fairy that you meet will act a bit different, just like humans.
One difference is that fairies have their own rules, ethics, morals, and etiquette. It can be difficult to understand them because they live by a culture that we aren’t used to.
I think it’s human nature to be afraid of anything or anyone who has equal power as us. It makes sense that we’re afraid of power and of the unknown because in centuries past, this meant we could be overpowered or even killed.
Even though it’s biologically normal for us to be afraid, a bit of research will usually help to dispel that fear. I find that most of the terror surrounding the Fae Folk is because of the unknown elements rather than fairies themselves.
So then, can fairies actually hurt you?
Simple answer: yes. Fairies can be unpredictable. They don’t act like humans in many ways. If you do something that upsets them, they’re more than capable of hurting you.
Once you invite fairies in your house, you can’t just lock your doors against them. They aren’t bound by physical laws like we are, which makes it a bit harder to protect yourself.
The Fae Folk exist in a realm or dimension that is very close to ours, unlike ghosts or spirits. They have more physical power here than spirits do and can cause objects to move quite easily. They are able to touch humans, something that would be incredibly difficult for a spirit to accomplish.
Many powerful witches and spiritual teachers who work with the Fae Folk have described negative interactions. There are reports of faeries stealing items, causing bad luck for a long time, killing crops, hurting animals, making people sick, temporarily blinding humans, or causing madness or loss of speech.
At the very worst, faeries have been known to cause strokes, bruising or muscle cramps (when they pinch or hit you), steal children, or even try to kill humans.
Keep in mind that these stories are the worst case scenarios. In all of these instances, faeries were enacting revenge that they felt was well-deserved based on something the human had done, whether the individual realized the indiscretion or not.
Typically, fairies only want to harm a human if the person has touched or ruined a fairy place, although this always depends on the fairy in question. There are very forgiving fairies, such as house fairies, and there are parts of the Fae Folk who will hurt humans for no reason at all, such as the Unseelie Court.
However, fairies can also heal you. They can befriend you, make your gardens grow, play with your animals, and introduce you to a really magical world. There are some lovely fairies out there who enjoy playing with children, working with nature, and interacting with the more beautiful parts of the world.
Fairies have been known to warn humans of danger. One witch reports being woken up in the middle of the night by a fairy when her house was on fire. My sister had a fairy woman warn her when a negative entity was lying to her and she was able to protect herself.
Some fairies assist witches with their practice, teach their favorite humans new recipes or spells, or even heal chronic illnesses.
Just like humans, fairies have a whole range of temperaments. I personally feel that there is no reason to be more scared of fairies than you are of humans walking down the street, but there is a good reason to be respectful and optimistically cautious.
I personally believe that some of the scary legends about the Fae Folk are true. I think that others came into existence to explain terrible things like infant death or kidnappings. Before we had DNA tests, organized police, or medicine like antibiotics, death was much more common and often more brutal, so people blamed these things on fairies as a coping mechanism.
Much of your interactions with fairies will depend on the way you treat them as well as the individual fairy’s personality and temperament. In any culture, there is dark, light, and a whole array of colors in between.
Keep in mind that fairies are often mischievous. This doesn’t mean that they’re bad, but they typically enjoy playing tricks or using word play. They might steal things from your home or trick you into giving them something.
Most faeries can’t lie. While they will technically tell the truth, they’re experts at using word play to trick you or avoid answering your question.
Remember that once you strike a deal with a fairy, there is no getting out of it. Fairies are known to force you to consent verbally (the verbal deal is extremely important to them) in any way possible, so negotiate extremely carefully.
Even agreeing to further negotiation is a deal of sorts, because you simply can’t back out of chatting once you have agreed! The word “maybe” is your friend when you’re talking to faeries.
If you do choose to work with the Fae Folk, by contacting them, you’re kind of agreeing to whatever they say before they’ve even said it. This is because you are the one initiating contact.
However, most fairies in my experience (at least the ones near me) are very generous and forgiving, as long as you remain humble and acknowledge when you messed up.
They tend to know that I’m trying and seem to appreciate effort. This isn’t everyone’s experience, so go into any situation with the Fair Folk prepared. I’ll talk more about how to prep down below.
Before you contact the Fair Folk or attempt anything with them, you should know:
- Basic Fae Folk terminology
- Fairy etiquette
- How to set up boundaries and wards without causing offense
- How to protect yourself if needed
I’ll go over how to do each of these things below. Read on if you’re interested in working with the Fair Folk at some point.
Can I Eat Fairy Food?
Ok, so what about eating fairy food? Is it dangerous? This is a pretty basic question and a valid concern because we are so often warned against eating fairy food.
Legend says that eating the food of the Fae Folk will cause you to become stuck in the fairy world or go crazy because you will lose taste for all regular food.
First off, how would you actually get stuck in the fairy world? Obviously, this has never happened to me, but legend (as well as many modern day witches) says that you will typically be “taken” into the Otherworld when you’re alone. This will probably be when you’re out on a walk.
It may take months for this to happen, but you will suddenly go missing. Everyone will assume that you have been kidnapped; it’ll be like you vanished without a trace.
Some who are taken in the world of the Fae Folk never return while others come back a good time later. Time doesn’t work the same in the Otherworld, so it’s hard to say how much time you will miss while you’re gone or what experiences you will have there.
Alternatively, if you lose the taste for regular food, you can go crazy or die because you simply refuse to eat. Fairy food is also said to make humans sick.
You might be wondering how you would even eat fairy food. If you can’t usually see fairies, then how could you possibly be offered food?
The most obvious way would be if you were to eat something you find in the woods in a spot that clearly belongs to the Fae Folk. If you sense fairy energy, hear music, feel as though you’re being watched, see a ring of mushrooms, etc., don’t eat anything from the area. The most commonly consumed foods in these areas are berries, herbs/leaves, or mushrooms.
However, fairies will sometimes appear as humans, too. Imagine you come along a lemonade stand in the middle of an abandoned road tended by children. They offer you free lemonade along your trip. This might just be a regular lemonade stand, or it might be fairies in disguise.
The way to protect yourself is to pay for the lemonade. Fairies are all about free trade, so it’s rare for their spells to work if you’re actually paying for the goods you receive. The same thing goes for free donuts outside a coffee shop or even samples in the mall. In general, don’t take free food unless it’s from someone you know.
It is safe to eat the food of the Fae Folk if it’s a gift given in reciprocity. Let’s say you gave your faery friends a shiny mineral stone and they reciprocate with some berries (that you know for a fact are safe to eat). These berries are a gift in reciprocity,, meaning you won’t owe a debt if you consume them.
It’s also fine to eat fairy food if you specifically ask for it and are granted the food, as long as you reciprocate with a gift in kind. Fairies are all about an equal exchange, but it has to be something you want to do. They won’t actually ask for a gift back yet fairy etiquette often demands it and you may be punished if you don’t reciprocate.
Lastly, you can be offered fairy food by a member of the Fair Folk in dreams or in astral travel. I recommend politely refusing if possible. This is much more dangerous because you can be more easily tricked.
How To Contact The Fae Folk:
Before you even think about contacting the Fae Folk, set up some boundaries and wards. I’ll go more into how to do this in the next section.
You should also be prepared to put in the effort before you contact fairies. Once you start giving gifts on a regular basis and building a relationship, they may get upset or hurt if you suddenly stop and might retaliate. Of course, not every fairy is like this, but there are some unspoken Fae Folk rules that it would be prudent to follow.
Respect the Fair Folk and what belongs to them. Don’t go brazenly into areas that are clearly marked for fairies. Instead, contact them and let them come to you at their own pace. If you do get the feeling that you intruded, don’t go back to the area unless invited.
Learn more about your local folklore and regional legends before beginning. Try to figure out what kinds of Fae Folk live in your area and who you might be contacting.
Keep in mind that if you want to build a relationship with any one of the Fair Folk, it can take a while. The Fae don’t trust anyone right off the bat, especially not humans.
These relationships should look kind of like a relationship with any human person. You can’t just ask for the Fae to be around when you feel like it, as you may do with your guides. This has to be an equal relationship; they don’t like feeling used.
To begin working with the Fae Folk, start leaving them offerings. They enjoy small shiny things like crystals, silver bobbles, mirrored pieces, etc. They also like sweet food, milk, honey, and alcohol.
Give them the best part of your food or trinkets instead of the worst. They want to be noticed and love knowing that you put the effort in to build a relationship.
If you don’t want the Fae in your house right off the bat, leave the offerings outdoors. Try to pick a specific place and be consistent about leaving offerings there. If you live in an apartment, you can use a window box or find a spot at the park if you don’t want to invite the Fae Folk into your house (which I wouldn’t if you’re not super experienced). It’s easier and safer to work outside.
Plant lots of flowers in your yard if you have one! The Fair Folk in general love gardens and nature. When you see butterflies or birds frequenting your yard, that usually means it’s the type of place that faeries would enjoy, too.
When working with the Fae, avoid iron. It’s said to harm them. Just in case, I try to keep it out of my yard.
Fairies love wind chimes or anything that makes music. They also love small fairy houses and are drawn to children who make them little dwellings. If you want to be super clear about your intentions, try placing some wooden fairy homes in your yard.
In general, be kind and generous to wildlife. The fairies will see what type of person you are before you even start contacting them.
You can also simply tell the fairies that they are welcome by talking out loud or writing a note. However, once you say it, you can’t take it back, so be very specific in your wording.
If a member of the Fair Folk is interested in talking to you, they may leave you gifts. move items around, show up in dreams, or even reveal themselves to you during waking hours. Keep your eyes open and always remember to reciprocate gifts!
How To Know Your Contacting The Fae Folk, Not Spirits Or Ghosts:
Sometimes spirit work can be difficult because spirits can lie. You might be talking to a negative entity who has convinced you they’re an orphaned child. It can actually be a bit dangerous, if you’re not careful.
So, how can you know that you’re contacting the Fae Folk and not spirits or ghosts?
First of all, the Fae Folk are actually around quite often. You may have thought you had ghosts or spirits around when it was actually fairies.
There are a few ways to tell the difference. When fairies or the Fair Folk are around, items might disappear. Cats will act strangely. You may hear sourceless, wild music, or have a strange song stuck in your head. You may see motion in your peripheral vision that looks shiny or flashy.
I’ll include more ways to know if the Fae around around below, but for the purpose of this section, there are some clear differences between the presence of fairies and the presence of ghosts.
Spirits, ghosts, or entities will have a dark or shadowy form that you can see if you possess any clairvoyant abilities, but they will be fuzzy or see-through. Fairies won’t appear like that; they’re generally completely visible or totally hidden.
Spirits will make small things move because it takes a lot of energy for them to interact on our plane. Fairies can move things quite easily, but they will usually wait until you’re not looking, while ghosts or spirits will move something small in front of you to indicate that they’re present.
Fairies enjoy the objects themselves. They might steal things; some fairies, such as Brownies, could even help you clean up your home or yard. Spirits, on the other hand, only move things for the purpose of interacting with you. They want you to know that they’re around.
Ghosts or spirits will give off a distinct vibe when they’re present. You will feel like a person or entity is present. The feeling could even be heavy. Fairies will give off a light, mischievous feeling.
If you’re speaking with a being, note that fairies can’t lie but ghosts can. However, legend states that if you ask a spirit the same question three times, they will either answer it truthfully all three times or will have to change one of the answers and you will know that they are lying.
Just to be safe, ask any being the same question three times (in a super polite way!) and see how they answer.
If you are sure that you’re in contact with a fairy and don’t actually want to work with them, I recommend leaving the area if you’re in the fairy’s domain. If you’re in your home, see if you can just ignore each other or pretend they don’t exist or figure out a way to politely banish it. When in doubt, use friendly caution.
However, if you’re sure it’s a ghost or entity and are getting bad vibes, you don’t need to be as polite. Throw up your wards and banish it right away.
Fae Folk Rules & Etiquette
Faeries have different etiquette than humans. Although many Fae Folk rules will depend on the specific types of faeries that you’re working with, it doesn’t hurt to start with a few basics.
Most faeries I have contacted have been very forgiving if I messed up. I have heard that this isn’t always the case. As always, do your research before going in.
First of all, it isn’t generally polite to call them fairies or faeries. Instead, call these beings the Fair Folk or Good People. You can also ask them what they would like to be called.
Don’t try to force a fairy to give you its name. To faeries, names are very important and hold a lot of power. You can ask what the faerie would like to be called by you.
It’s also best to avoid giving faeries your name, but to be polite and truthful. I recommend using a nickname that is somehow related to your full name so they won’t feel tricked if they find out.
Another legend says that faeries don’t like to be thanked. Depending on the type of faery you’re talking to, thanks can either be offensive because it implies that they’re subservient to you, or it may mean that you owe them a debt and are now bound to them.
Instead of thanking the Fair Folk, express gratitude for gifts given. Some lines that work well are:
“I’m so happy that this object is here. It’s beautiful.”
“I really appreciate this _______.”
Reciprocal gifts or offerings are always good, too.
If the Fair Folk give you a gift, you should probably accept it. In fact, faeries may be offended if you reject the gift, or at the very least a bit hurt.
However, faery gifts are sometimes traps. Legend says that gifts that seem like something are nothing, and gifts that seem like nothing are actually something quite important, for good or bad. Use your intuition when it comes to accepting gifts.
If you do receive a gift from the Fair Folk, give a return gift that’s thoughtful as quickly as possible. Faeries work on a debt system and typically feel owed if they give you something.
For example, if you gift them something back, they might avoid causing you mischief because they appreciate your reciprocation. If you don’t return a gift, then expect some things to go missing from your home. These are the unspoken Fae Folk rules.
Try to never spy on the Fair Folk. If faeries are seen when they don’t wish to be, they may get angry or withdraw all-together. Faeries like to be invisible in our world because it can be dangerous to them.
If you do see them and aren’t positive they want you to, simply pretend not to notice. Most of the Fae Folk have strong glamours that they put up, but you can sometimes see through them if your psychic sense is activated. It’s best to go on your way and avoid staring.
When you’re in contact with faeries, do not brag about it to anyone. It’s safest to tell no one at all, but if you do want to share your experiences, tell only your closest friends in private.
If a fairy asks you not to tell other people something, don’t speak of it. They have ways of knowing. However, most fairies just don’t want you to brag about your contact with them.
Make sure to speak well of the Fae Folk, even when they aren’t around, because they could be listening. Silence is always better.
Don’t lie to the fairies. You can certainly stretch the truth or be clever about what you say as they always are, but don’t straight up lie.
For example, give them a nickname instead of your real name, but don’t give a fake name. Faeries can get upset if they find out they have been lied to.
Don’t break your word. In the kingdom of the Fair Folk, there are no “three strikes.” You only need break your word once to anger them. A promise is a promise, even if it didn’t feel serious to you at the time. If you agree to something, faeries consider your word a binding oath.
When you’re giving offerings to the Fae Folk, try to notice what things they like. Most faeries prefer sweet food like honey, cream, bread, crackers, champagne, or even whiskey. They will also like things that are native to or traditional of your area or ancestry, whichever they’re more connected to.
Avoid meat or heavily processed food. Fairies that love meat typically aren’t the sort you want around.
If you’re doing yard work, taking down trees, etc., give your nature spirits and fairies a few days notice. Bring an offering out to the yard and explain to them why you have to do this work. Generally, it’s best to avoid this as much as possible.
Be kind and generous to nature and animals and keep trash away from fairy areas. Faeries really hate getting dirty!
Lastly, if faeries as to borrow something, it’s usually good to give it to them. They will always pay you back somehow. Faeries don’t like to owe debts.
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Signs The Fae Folk Are Around
When you first start talking to the Fae Folk and attempt working with fairies, you’ll want to know if they’re actually around. There are a few things that mean you likely have fairies in your yard or home, depending on where you have invited them to be.
Some of the signs that indicate fairies are around:
- You see light flickering in the corner of your eye
- You see “spheres” of light around flowers, greenery, or mushrooms
- Your shoes move from one place to another
- Your jewelry, crystals, or other shiny objects disappear
- Your pets (especially cats) act like they’re playing with an invisible creature
- You have interesting dreams filled with bright colors, fairy music, or sweet food
- You are taught things in dreams by fairies
- You hear bells, tapping, laughter, fairy music, or singing with no source
- A random gift (that could be virtually anything) shows up in your house or yard
- You come across a mushroom ring (a clear sign the Fae Folk were there)
- You smell the overwhelming scent of flowers with no clear source
- You feel as though someone is watching you
You may also have a strong feeling that fairies are around you. If you feel happy, buoyant, or generally different this can be a sign.
How To Protect Yourself From The Fae Folk
I always recommend that you learn about protection before you begin work with the Fair Folk. While many of the Fae are wonderful creatures and friends, it’s just prudent to protect yourself like you would even around human beings.
First of all, set up some wards. I recommend that you ward your home so that only those invited may enter. Engage with faeries outside only, at first, until you feel comfortable inviting them in.
I also recommend that you ward your body and the bodies of anyone else who lives in your home. I typically draw from the earth to power these wards so that they stay strong over time. I like to make a talisman that will break 24 hours before the wards go down, so I have a chance to re-do them.
It’s very important that you ward against physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual damage, as fairies are able to inflict many different kinds of harm.
I cleanse my space frequently to make sure that nothing untoward has slipped past my wards. I recommend doing this, although your wards will get stronger over time.
You can even ward your yard if you’re feeling nervous. When you’re first meeting with fairies, invite them in the for the afternoon or for a set amount of time. Be very careful with your wording as this now means they’re allowed in which you can’t take back until the time period has past.
If you have children, it’s especially important that you ward them properly before beginning work with the Fair Folk. Children can be attractive to fairies with ulterior motives. Legend says that the Fae sometimes steal children right out of their beds and replace them with Fae children.
Place iron in your children’s rooms as well as crosses, if this feels comfortable to you. Teach them how to act around the Fae Folk and how to stay safe. Keep an eye on your children when you’re in nature, such as on a walk through the woods.
If worst comes to worst, about 80% of faeries are repelled or injured by iron. You can make a charm of iron or place a bit of iron into a spray bottle and create iron spray. Any type of iron as well as steel (which contains iron) will work.
However, this is really a last resort because using iron will damage your relationship with the Fair Folk beyond repair. It’s quite literally throwing them out of your home instead of working with them. I would much rather apologize for what I have done, give a gift, or come to some sort of resolution rather than banish faeries from my life.
At the end of the day, you should always trust your own instincts. There are wonderful faeries full of light and love, and there are also darker faeries who need little provocation. If something feels off, it probably is.
Take steps to protect yourself before you begin working with the Fae and you will have much less to worry about.
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More Resources On The Fae Folk
Here are some great books if you’re interested in delving deeper into working with the Fae Folk.
A Witch’s Guide to Faery Folk: How to Work with the Elemental World
Magic of the Celtic Otherworld: Irish History, Lore & Rituals
The Art of Celtic Seership: How to Divine from Nature and the Otherworld
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When you first become interested in the fae, it can be a bit overwhelming. There are so many types of fairies and types of fae. Where to begin?
Today I’m going over the most well-known types of fairies. Keep in mind that I am not personally acquainted with every type of fae on this list because there are just so many!
I certainly believe that fairies exist, but there are some types that I haven’t encountered. Certain types of fairies are much more human-friendly than others.
Fairy, faerie, or fae is the general world for the fae folk, which includes many different types of fairies. Every type of fairy on this list is technically part of the fae folk but has a more specific name, too.
It’s sort of like calling yourself a human but also identifying yourself based on the country you’re a citizen of.
Because the fairy world is different from ours, not every type of fairy is so clearly defined. Their rules are different and they don’t always classify themselves in a way that’s easy for us to understand.
This is simply the best way we have to classify fairies. Plus, most fairies seem to call themselves by these names!
Many types of fairies consider themselves tied to one element. For example, pixies tend to be earth fairies, while salamanders tend to be fire fairies.
Some fairies can belong to more than one element, but this is rare. Fairies typically travel in groups according to the element they’re tied to.
Where Did Fairies (the Fae) Originate From?
There are many different legends that try to explain the origination of farieis.
One such legend says that fairies are simply nature spirits. They’re always present in the elements and are the caretakers of nature.
Another says that fairies are spirits of the dead, however this belief sprang up during Victorian times when “death” became a huge part of pop culture spirituality.
In general, most types of fae seem to exist near humans but are separate and distinct. They live on earth, in our world, but aren’t always in the same dimension/on the same plane.
Fairies are neither good nor bad. They all have individual personalities. However, working with fairies is pretty advanced and you do need to be careful.
You can learn from fairies and gain magickal powers, but you can also incur their wrath if they feel slighted or you can be tricked if you encounter a mischievous member of the fae.
It’s good to first learn about the different types of fairies and do a bit of research into the type you want to work with before beginning.
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Types Of Fairies:
If you’re just starting to learn about the different types of fae and fairies then you can quickly feel overwhelmed. After all, there are way more types than I could even include on this list, with many different distinctions and classifications.
As a beginner, you should definitely learn about Brownies, Pixies, Elves, and Dryads, as well as the Seelie Court and Unseelie Court.
The first are the types of fae that you’re most likely to interact with. The courts generally run the “world” of fairy.
I included all of the types of fae that I know the most about, but as my knowledge expands, I will add more types of fairies to this list!
Brownies are your typical household spirit. They originated in Scottish folklore, although they popped up in English and German folklore at times, too.
Originally, Brownies were known as helpers for farmers. They tended to do outdoor tasks during the night such as shoveling hay, feeding the sheep, etc.
Brownies are short (at about 3 feet tall) and have pointed ears, brown complexions, and brown working clothes. They’re super earthly! In fact, when they don’t have a family, they tend to live underground because they don’t have wings.
J.K. Rowling definitely got some inspiration for house elves from Brownies. They have a lot in common. However, Brownies are never slaves and can leave a family or property anytime.
Brownies are drawn towards the most deserving families. To them, this means the people who work the hardest and who most need extra help.
When Brownies stick with a family for a while and are generally happy, they will bring good luck to the household. They’re a kind of magical magnet for luck.
If you have a Brownie living with you, then you should keep your house nice and tidy. Brownies will help you with chores but want you to keep the living area clean, too.
Don’t forget to feed your Brownie or they will get angry! They love milk, cookies, or honey left out at night. They simply want to feel thought-of.
Brownies will make friends with your pets and love being in a household with animal friends.
The typical drawing of the Brownie in Scottish lore shows the fairy sleeping with the barn cat. Brownies will get angry if you mistreat your pets because they can form quite tight bonds with animals.
Although Brownies can come out at any time, they’re nocturnal and do most of their chores at night. They’re shy and hate being spied on while they’re cleaning.
If you want to attract a Brownie to your house, there are a few things you can do to “put out a signal.”
First of all, Brownies like rural areas. Living on a farm will make your home especially attractive to a Brownie, but more nature in general is always better.
It’s also good if you live in a home with lots of hiding places for the Brownie to go during the day. They love homes with chests, closets, and secret doors.
Brownies love cozy houses, so try to make your home as warm and happy as possible.
You can also put out a request for a Brownie (even verbally saying it or writing the request on a piece of paper and burning it works) and see if you attract an interested fairy.
However, be careful because Brownies can be fickle. If you upset them, you’ll find yourself in a bit of trouble. They will either take off, never to be seen again, or will cause problems in your home.
Don’t try to pay your Brownie for anything or be too materialistic when it comes to them. They don’t want expensive items as gifts but simply enjoy thoughtful presents like the food they enjoy or comfy little areas set up for them in the home.
If you treat your Brownie well, they can be super loyal to your property or even your family. Some Brownies bond really tightly with their families, or even one member of the family, and feel quite the allegiance.
Although Brownies will sometimes be “in between” families, they’re very social and generally like living around people. These are some of the sweetest types of fairies who love being around humans!
When you think of the different types of fairies, the image that pops into your head is probably a pixie, even if you don’t realize it.
Pixies are only about 4 inches tall and tend to live in the gardens and woods. They’re the types of fae that has the most contact with humans, so they tend to show up a lot in pop culture such as fairytales or Disney movies.
Although pixies are well-known in southwestern England’s folklore, they can live in any wooded area or garden. You can easily find pixies if you simply walk into the woods or a pretty patch of flowers! Pixies will go anywhere where there is nature.
In fact, if you want to work with the fae, you can quite easily attract pixies to almost any location.
Pixies do have wings, but they’re known as earth or nature fairies. They’re super tiny with human-like figures and delicate wings that move extremely fast, almost like a hummingbird.
Some Pixies dress only in green while others prefer other colors of nature, like blue or yellow.
Pixies will choose an area or community to live in, but these communities get torn up quite often to build homes and developments.
When this happens, the pixies in the area will be traumatized and go into hiding. However, they may not leave unless the area is totally decimated.
If you want to draw pixies into your yard, create woodsy areas or a pretty garden for them to live in. Pixies appreciate both shelter and nature, and they will always come check out a cute little fairy house!
Even though pixies tend to enjoy contact with humans, they’re very cunning and can delight in leading humans astray. They are your typical mischievous types of fairies. Of course, every pixie will be a bit different since they all have individual personalities.
Pixies don’t understand human desperation or pain. They play a lot of jokes for fun, but these jokes may not seem funny to people and can cause harm for humans.
They’re especially known to steal stuff from your home or take items and hide them somewhere else so you can’t find them.
However, as long as you treat pixies well and give them gifts that they approve of, they will probably respect you, too.
They enjoy tiny houses, nectar, and honey. Leave a small offering out for pixies if you’re interested in making contact!
Pixies especially love flowers, so planting blooms (especially those native to your area) will draw them towards your property.
You probably won’t be able to find a pixie community because they magically cloak these areas. They like to stay hidden, especially nowadays due to the devastation of nature. But, they will come to your area if you create a beautiful, natural spot!
When you’re giving gifts to pixies, consider what is natural to your region. They will especially enjoy things that grow naturally in your area. In return for your gifts, pixies will help your gardens flourish and grow.
The Banshee only exists in Ireland and Scotland, typically on the Moors, and has the “cry of death.”
The Banshee is a female spirit/type of fairy that predicts death. Her cry is typically an omen.
She can appear in a lot of different forms. According to fairy-lore, she is known to appear either as a beautiful young woman, a stately matron, or an old, ugly hag.
The Banshee isn’t often seen with the physical eye but she is certainly heard. Her mourning cries are known to be extremely haunting.
The Banshee runs a comb through her long, silver hair while she cries. In fact, in some parts of Ireland, combs are thought to be bad luck simply because of the Banshee.
Some folks believe that there are many different Banshees in Ireland; a group of Banshees is very bad luck compared to a single fairy.
The Banshee usually doesn’t harm people she encounters, but her cry does predict death. However, when you hear her cry, she is simply predicting the death for someone in the area, not necessarily your own.
Leprechauns are well-known types of fairies, but they’re also very real!
Leprechauns appear as super small, aged men dressed in green or red. They often wear a pointed cap and love to smoke pipes. They’re mainly found in Ireland.
Even though most types of fae don’t have set jobs like humans do, Leprechauns are the exception. They are first and foremost cobblers, but can also act as bankers in the fairy world.
You will hear Leprechauns coming by the tapping of their hammer. They always have a shoe and hammer in hand. Legend says that Leprechauns are are constantly crafting shoes because other types of fairies wear out their shoes nightly during revels while dancing.
Leprechauns also love music and dance themselves. They especially enjoy the fiddle, the Irish drum, and the harp. Sometimes, a Leprechaun can even help a human with their musical abilities.
Some Leprechauns are distrustful and secretive around humans, but if you act kindly towards them without expecting anything in return, they might bestow some of their gold upon you.
Most Leprechauns avoid humans. It’s said that if a human can capture a Leprechaun, then the fairy must reveal the hiding place of his gold. However, almost every human who has tried this has been tricked by the Leprechaun and ends up with less than he started with.
Leprechauns love gold and ale. They’re known to be information brokers and always have a bit of information to sell you, probably for a hefty price. They’re typically honest, although a few of them can be tricksters.
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Although Elves have become super popular due to books and movies, legends around elves date back thousands of years.
According to mythology, there are both light elves and dark elves in the fairy kingdom.
In general, legends about elves tend to be from European/Germanic sources as well as Nordic and Icelandic. Elves are often depicted with blonde hair and blue eyes.
Out of all of the types of fairies, elves are closest to humans in size and stature. They’re a bit slimmer but are similar height.
Elves have high cheekbones and angular features compared to humans. They are also said to have mesmerizing eyes and pointed ears.
Nowadays, folks in many cultures still believe that elves exist. In fact, many of the caves in Iceland are protected by the government because 3/4 of the residents believe that elves reside in the area.
Elves are thought to be the types of fairies who typically place changelings in human homes. This can occur for a variety of reasons that I’ll discuss in the changelings section of this post.
While elves are sometimes friendly towards humans, they can also take revenge if they feel offended. They generally stay away from humans, especially when compared to other types of fae.
Legend says that elves are the types of fairies that are the protectors and caretakers of the forest. They are usually tied to the specific forest that they protect and live in groups.
Elves are very smart and agile. They have keener perceptions than humans but use their senses in nature and avoid technology.
Kobolds are types of fae who live in mines. There haven’t been many sightings of Kobolds so it’s hard to say exactly what they look like.
Generally, Kobolds only interact with miners. Some Kobolds are trouble makers and will undo the miners’ progress, but others will actually help or knock on the tunnels to warn the miners of a cave-in.
Changelings are a rather scary part of fairy legend. While they aren’t exactly a type of fae, changelings are in a league of their own.
According to legend, a changeling is a fairy child that has been swapped for a human child. The changeling will grow up with human parents but won’t appear like a normal human child.
Fairies swap babies for a few reasons; each culture has its own legend. Sometimes, a fairy will swap a sick fae child with a healthy human child. This fae child will either die in infancy or will grow up sickly. You will notice that they’re beautiful and artistic with fairy features, even though they may be unhealthy.
Other fairies swap their babies because they want a beautiful human child and feel that their own baby is ugly, or to strengthen their bloodline if there is sickness. Sometimes, a fairy will need a talent that only a human child possesses.
Of course, changelings are rare, if they really exist anymore. The development of technology has made the practice of swapping babies dangerous for fairies.
If you do encounter a changeling, you’ll notice their fairy features. They won’t look like their parents and will probably have some magickal skills. They may also have trouble fitting in socially because fairies relate to each other in a very different way.
It’s unclear if changelings ever truly existed or if this was a way to explain infant mortality rates in Medieval times. I can’t personally attest to the fact that changelings exist, but I won’t rule it out. I find that all legends have some bit of truth in them.
Devas are small fairies that look almost like fireflies. If you live in a woodsy area, you have probably seen devas without even knowing it.
The deva originated in Persia and Greece. Devas appear as bright orbs of light in nature, although they’re particularly found in the woods.
Devas love being around well-cared for plants. They are known to guide medical researchers or witches seeking to use plants for their medicinal qualities. However, a Deva won’t stay near a plant that is in decay.
Dryads are types of fairies that are tied to trees. While they aren’t the actual spirit of the tree and are a type of fae, if the tree dies, the dryad will die too.
Dryads don’t typically travel far from their trees. They’re very attached to one specific area and will do everything in their power to keep their tree alive.
These types of fae will look more favorably upon humans if they care for their trees. They can be a bit shy, but when they see a human taking care of the environment and treating animals and nature well, they’re more likely to open up and communicate.
You will be able to tell that you have a dryad in your yard if any of your trees have a “face” look on them. Alternatively, you will feel an active, different energy around a tree; this indicates that the tree spirit also has a dryad attached.
If you want to chat with dryads in your backyard, first show them your spirit through taking care of your trees. After a bit, they will begin to trust you.
It’s easier to communicate with dryads if you’re actually touching the tree and standing on the ground with bare feet since they communicate through the earth.
Dryads are some of the sweetest types of fae. If you’re just dipping your toes into communication with the fae, I recommend starting with dryads!
Gnomes are well-known due to pop culture, but they’re actually one of the many types of fairies that live among tree roots in the forest.
The myth of Gnomes originated in Scotland, but they’re thought to inhabit any woodsy area, including many parts of the U.S.
Gnomes look almost like little dwarfs. They mature quickly, so they typically appear old. They wear pointed red hats with green or blue clothing.
You’ll find gnomes in most natural, woodsy areas, so their diet depends on exactly where they’re living. Gnomes are known to enjoy fruit, nuts, vegetables (especially root vegetables), eggs, and mushrooms.
Gnomes are extremely connected to nature. In fact, they’re actually earth elementals, so they’re very powerful with anything related to the earth. If you want to work earth magic and manage to befriend a gnome, then they can help you to grow super powerful.
They’re known to care for animals and are natural healers, although they tend to use their powers for animals and plant life, not humans.
Gnomes are very shy and cautious. They stay far away from humans, especially due to their small size.
Irish Sea Water Guardians
Irish Sea Water Guardians are only a few inches tall, but they fiercely guard the Irish sea.
These types of fairies are sacred to the Irish sea god Manann. They’re surrounded by a greenish blue light; you won’t often see them with the naked eye but may see the light that they give off.
These types of fae especially love storms! They surf the waves and bob up and down. They’re friends with dolphins and other intelligent sea creatures.
If any sea creature needs help, the Irish Sea Water Guardians will always come to their aid.
Kelpies are ugly, scary water fairies that are thought to be cannibalistic and carnivorous.
According to Scottish and Irish legend, Kelpies eat deer off the shoreline as well as other types of fairies and even humans.
Male kelpies are thought to be shapeshifters. They can turn into handsome men to lure young women into the water and either trap them or consume them.
Typically, the kelpie is seen in the form of a horse if they won’t reveal their true form. You can find kelpies in the ocean as well as rivers and streams.
Some kelpies are even though to be the classic scary monsters that have created huge legends, such as the Loch Ness Monster.
Mermaids are huge in pop culture, so most people don’t believe in them. However, in the witch/magical community, Mermaids are definitely real.
Most of these types of fairies prefer to be known as mer or merfolk, although they’re called mermaids and mermen in pop culture.
Merfolk are very beautiful (both the men and women) and are half human, half fish creates who live in the oceans and seas.
There are stories about Merfolk that paint them in both a positive and a negative light. Some tales sale that Merfolk lured ships to the rocks and sailors to the deaths, while others say that Merfolk rescued drowning men.
These types of fairies do not live in homes. Instead, the swim throughout the oceans and frequently migrate. They tend to live in family units, although these can grow quite large. Merfolk protect everyone within the group.
Although the Merfolk generally hide from humans, they have become more visible as the ocean gets polluted. They will sometimes reach out to humans to try and stop further pollution.
Nymphs are a type of fae from Greece. There are many different types of nymphs, including tree nymphs, water nymphs, wood nymphs, etc.
In some legends, nymphs have the reputation for being hyper-sexual. They are generally known as beautiful females, but unlike Sirens, they are relatively harmless.
Nymphs can be a bit mischievous like all types of fairies, but they don’t hurt humans. Sometimes, they even fall in love with humans and will be quite committed.
Salamanders aren’t a well known type of fae, but they are powerful!
Generally, Salamanders are known as a fire elemental and can be really helpful if you’re a witch working with fire. They appear as fiery lizards in red and orange tones, although they are also known to show up as a classic fire fairy or even a ball of fire or light.
Salamanders are some of the strongest elementals. They embody the spirit of fire. They come to the aid of humans or witches in the areas of passion and revenge as well as the physical manifestation of fire.
Like all types of fairies, Salamanders can be mischievous, so make sure you know what you’re doing before you ask them to work together. They can get quite upset if they feel that they have been slighted and wreak havoc.
The Seelie Court is one of the most well-known aspects of fairy-lore. They’re thought to be benevolent fairies who act as arbiters and judges in faery disputes.
The Seelie Court is typically seen at twilight when they conduct their courtly processions. They’re especially active during the spring and summer months.
Most members of the Seelie Court enjoy beautiful things. They’re all about the stunning dresses and clothing, harmonious instruments, delicate flowers, and of course, dances. The Seelie Court is made of the most beautiful types of fairies.
The Seelie Court types of fairies are known to be somewhat friendly to humans. They are said to seek help from humans if needed and return human favors with kindness.
However, like any other types of fairies, the Seelie Court has mischievous fairies, too. They can easily play tricks on you or get revenge if they feel slighted.
The Seelie Court is known as the “good” counterpart of the Unseelie Court. Some legends say that they fight each other, while others say that they are simply polar opposites and avoid each other.
A Selkie is a type of fae that has the abiliy to change from a seal into a human being at-will.
Selkies occupy the seas near Ireland, although their exact location is fluid. They take the form of grey seals or great seals while in the sea, but they can also appear as human women or classic fairies. They tend to come out on important seasonal days (such as Midsummer’s Eve).
Legend says that Selkies occasionally mate with human men. Some tales say that a man can wed a Selkie if he finds her seal skin on the beach and hides it from her, but she will return once she finds it.
The Will O’Wisp is a type of fae that is seen on any body of water at night. They will look like a small firefly or flickering orb of light.
The Will O’Wisp is seen across the world and is known by many different names in different cultures. They will typically appear in groups, so keep your eyes out for a bunch of flickering lights.
They also tend to like calm waters rather than rough waves, so they’re more commonly found on lakes or ponds.
Sometimes, Will O’Wisps are also found in earthly areas, such as on grassy hills or even in the woods.
Some legends say that these types of fae only appear as lights, while other stories say that the lights are from the lanterns these fairies carry as they revel. Generally when you see Will O’Wisps, you can assume that they’re having a party, which they do almost nightly.
The Unseelie Court is the darker counterpart to the Seelie Court. The Unseelie Court is made up of many different types of fairies, but they’re thought to attract lower types of fae such as Boggarts and Bogies.
The Unseelie Court is thought to be ugly or even hideous and more than a bit scary. The court can be made up of dark fairies as well as lost spirits, so they tend to be most active during autumn (Halloween) and winter.
Dark magic is often the work of the Unseelie Court. They’re known to work with witches concerning black magic or make deals with humans, but these deals never work out well for the human.
In fact, humans would do well to stay far away from the Unseelie Court. There is virtually no way to get along with them, but there are many ways to make them angry.
The term “unseelie” translates to “unblessed.” Even in the fairy world, the Unseelie Court is dark, dangerous, and evil.
The court travels at night on the winds. Members of the Unseelie Court can’t reproduce, so they’re said to steal humans and force them to join the court in order to keep their numbers up. According to legend, travelers going through woodsy areas at night should be careful and avoid the Unseelie Court.
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A Boggart is generally thought to be a Brownie turned bad. Similar to Boggarts in Harry Potter (J.K. Rowling seriously got a lot of her info from fairy-lore), modern-day Boggarts will haunt a home or an area, such as a trunk or a closet, and cause general issues.
Typically, a Boggart is a Brownie who was treated badly. This can make the Brownie act out, and over time they will turn into a Boggart, which means they’re attached to a property for the purpose of causing issues.
Alternatively, a Boggart can be a Brownie who stayed with a home after the family left. If the home falls into disrepair but the Brownie is attached to the property, then they can start to go a bit crazy and begin “haunting” the area.
Other Boggarts are Brownies who are simply mischievous in nature. Although most Brownies are helpful and social, there are always a few who are just naturally pranksters. These Boggarts delight in playing tricks on humans or scaring them.
Ideally, you will never encounter a Boggart because you won’t anger a Brownie, but if you do get into a situation with a Boggart, you may need to do an exorcism of your home.
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Even though we all research our Venus signs first, Venus in the houses is actually pretty important.
Your Venus sign will show the qualities that you exhibit, but the house that your Venus is in will indicate where you tend to show these qualities.
For example, with Venus in the 10th house, you tend to show your most Venusian qualities at work or in public, while Venus in the 4th house means that you show these qualities most at home or in private.
How To Read Venus In The Houses
You should start with your Venus sign when you’re looking into your placement. However, the house will be important, too.
You Venus sign shows the qualities that you exhibit, but the house shows where these qualities will appear most often.
Of course, because of aspects, you will have bits of your Venus sign in many areas of your life, but it will be strongest in the house that Venus is actually in.
Venus In The 1st House
With Venus in the 1st house, you are simply magnetic. Others like you and are drawn to you.
The Venus “love” qualities are front and center with your personality. You’re simply likable, maybe even for an indistinct reason.
You’re probably very social with Venus in the 1st house. You are charming and easily attract others. There may even be a slightly romantic element to your personality.
It’s easy for others to fall in love with you because of your attractive vibes. They might even fall in love with the idea of you before getting to know you. Your personality inspires trust.
You have the potential to enjoy the materialistic side of life and overindulge a bit. With Venus in the 1st house, you can be opulent in some ways, typically depending on your Venus sign.
Most individuals with Venus in the 1st house need to learn that all good things happen in time. They also need some self-control; they tend to want what they want when they want it.
With Venus in the 1st house, you can also have a strong need to be liked by others. You tend to give up your personal power during times of stress. You will want to focus on self-love in order to reclaim your power and make your own decisions.
At worst, you can actually start to become narcissistic because of your need to be liked by others. However, this will need other elements and placements in the chart to support narcissism.
You always want to avoid trouble. When challenged you may “play dumb” or react passive-aggressively. Venus in the 1st house always avoids outright confrontation.
In love, you seek all things classically romantic, including beauty, sensitivity, and softness. You’re probably aesthetically pleasing in some way and you also like to be surrounded by nice-looking people and things.
Venus In The 2nd House
If you have Venus in the 2nd house, you value tangible expressions of love. Actions mean much more to you than words.
You may be slow to like someone or something. Your feelings will grow gradually over time, whether these are emotions towards a partner or feelings about an item or theme.
In a relationship, you want to feel secure with Venus in the 2nd house. You need to see that someone is a safe harbor, but only time will tell this. When you commit yourself, you will be loyal until the end. This isn’t a very flightly placement for Venus.
You’re probably very honest with your partners. You’re reliable when it comes to love; no one has to guess what you’re thinking.
However, it can be very hard for you to let go of someone. Once you let a person in, you’re all in. You’re a true old-time romantic and want a traditional relationship in some sense.
You probably have a natural, sensual beauty. You may be a bit earthly or simply physically appealing in general.
Venus in the 2nd house typically means that you’re attracted to all things sensual. You really enjoy physical sensations and you’re probably attracted to animal magnetism rather than anything too manufactured.
I do find that some people with Venus in the 2nd house find materialistic things to be beautiful. Some of these folks feel that beauty has a price tag (and anyone’s beauty can be enhanced with makeup, Botox, etc.), while others are more interested in natural, sensual beauty, or things that are made from quality.
Venus In The 3rd House
Venus in the 3rd house is all about verbal expression. With this placement, you’re probably attractive because of your words, charisma, or methods of communication.
In a relationship, you value mental simulation with Venus in the 3rd house. You probably can’t be with someone who won’t chat with you and keep you interested. This is especially true for men with the Venus in the 3rd house placement.
You also value creativity. You’re probably very expressive or inventive in some way. Many folks with Venus in the 3rd house are writers, dancers, singers, artists, etc.
It is how you express yourself that makes you attractive. Other people notice your light because of your communication skills, however those may manifest. The sign that Venus is in will give more information about how you communicate and express yourself.
However, you might also stretch the truth with Venus in the 3rd house. This isn’t always the case, but you should be careful to stick to the truth with this placement.
You’re very playful, but love can feel almost like a game. You love the game of love yet others may get hurt by this. You’re seductive with your wit, spark, and playfulness.
Make sure that you make your intentions known to your potential partners so they don’t get misled.
Venus In The 4th House
If you have Venus in 4th house, your parents marriage probably affects your own skills in love. A lot of the way that you flirt and even act in relationships is learned from your parents’ relationship.
You probably show your love by caring for others in little ways. You may try to show that you understand your partner or friends and family emotionally.
This Venus in the 4th house placement means that, above all, you value feeling cozy and safe. You love having a beautiful home that’s yours.
In fact, you may care quite a bit about the aesthetic of your home. You desire quality items and have an “eye” for the way you want things to look.
Although most people with Venus in the 4th house define “pretty” different, you certainly want your home to look beautiful in the way that you define the word. You want quality items that feel like home to you.
Sometimes, Venus in the 4th house can mean that that you have some karma related to self-nurture. This can be applied in many ways, but you probably struggle in figuring out how to nurture yourself in a way that feels right.
Learning how to create a safe space that you love will make you feel ultra-fulfilled with Venus in the 4th house.
Venus In The 5th House
With Venus in the 5th house, you’re “in love with love.” You thrive on romantic attention and you probably always have a love interest.
You have a romantic, playful side that is attractive to others. Venus in the 5th house means that you’re probably super magnetic. Your larger than life energy easily attracts others.
When it comes to love and physical affection, you can be a bit dramatic. Venus in the 5th house means you have a showy energy, but this can be positive or negative.
You love your hobbies and having fun. You might be a party animal or you might be someone super active or invested in certain crafts or creative ventures.
With Venus in the 5th house, you might have a lot of relationships before you settle down. You’re probably in a relationship quite often, but you may leave a relationship once it’s not super fun anymore.
You may also be in love with having an audience and applause. Venus in the 5th house is the classic movie star placement. In some way, you’re very good at putting on a show and thrive on attention; this can be a positive or negative feature.
Venus In The 6th House
With Venus in the 6th house, you show your love through practical and helpful ways. You probably don’t express love with flowery words but with simple, functional actions that aid your partner in some way.
You do the thoughtful little things instead of the grand gestures. Venus in the 6th house is all about the day-to-day.
In fact, you may pursue relationships that serve a practical purpose in your life rather than those that make you feel romantic or attractive. You may also have trouble pursuing relationships for the purpose of soul growth.
With Venus in the 6th house, you may love your work or routines. It can be easy for you to focus on your schedule instead of your partner. If you can find a healthy balance then this won’t be an issue, but some people’s partners feel that the person with Venus in the 6th house is too rigid.
Remember to focus on what makes you feel happy at a soul level, not just on your routine or daily goals. Try to be a little spontaneous with your partner and let go of your practical reasons why you can’t change anything, whether it’s in your relationship or your own life.
However, you tend to increase your value through work, so you’re probably a very good worker in some way with Venus in the 6th house. Look to your Venus sign for more specifics.
Venus In The 7th House
If you have Venus in the 7th house, then you love relationships. It feels right to you that you have an other half. You also love everything in pairs!
Most of your values will be defined by the person you’re dating. Your impressionable, so your values might change quite often depending on your relationship status.
You not only need a lot of contact with a partner, but with other people, too. You may go out of your way to be liked and accepted by people in general with Venus in the 7th house.
Sometimes, you may use people to get what you want without realizing you’re doing it. Typically, you don’t mean to be malicious at all. People simply come into your life when you need them and it seems like fate, so you use what the other person has to offer.
However, you’re romantic and sociable. You tend to follow along with trends in order to fit in; you’re probably up-to-date on everything that’s new. Most Venus in the 7th house people love all things “in” and aesthetically pleasing.
Sometimes with Venus in the 7th house, you could have a keen eye for design, but this will need other aspects in the chart to support the placement as well. It will also depend on the sign that Venus sits in.
The hallmark of Venus in the 7th house is a strong need to be liked. Be careful that you don’t like this override your morals and values. You’re sociable and fun to be around, plus you’re a great romantic partner when you’re feeling happy and equal!
Venus In The 8th House
If you have Venus in the 8th house, you enjoy intensity. You’re easily bored with superficial people. In fact, you probably want all consuming devotion from your partner.
You have a fear of being betrayed. Venus in the 8th house can make loyalty really important to you.
However, you also have a fear of being vulnerable. You probably hide or control your own emotions in love because you’re afraid of the other person seeing the real you.
Sometimes with Venus in the 8th house, you’re attracted to people who are hidden or taboo in some way. You may also be drawn to partners who are unattainable or who need saving in some way.
You will either start to feel obsessive, possessive, or controlling in a relationship, or you will want to be controlled by your partner, even subconsciously. Venus in the 8th house is all about a power imbalance.
Somethings, you will swing back and forth between controlling your partner and finding a partner who tries to have power over you.
Venus in the 8th house has a dark side to a relationship. It’s very hard for you to not have power struggles with this placement.
Love can make you feel powerful and attractive but it can also be devastating. However, you will find that your relationships are extremely transformative.
In a relationship, you’re all in with Venus in the 8th house. You go all the way unless there is some sort of power struggle that causes the relationship to break.
Venus In The 9th House
With Venus in the 9th house, you have a strong sense of adventure and you need a partner who is up for new experiences.
In a relationship, you need to feel that you’re always growing and want the same for your partner. You want to learn from love and from your partner.
You love having a good time with Venus in the 9th house. Your sense of fun will be attractive to others. You need a partner who can engage with you and do fun things, too.
It can be easy for you to pursue sensations in love instead of true attachment. With Venus in the 9th house, you tend to get caught up in the exciting feeling of love and overlook who your partner truly is.
With Venus in the 9th house, you want to learn through your relationships. Typically, you will do this through having deep discussions and working through issues. Complacency simply isn’t an option for you.
In fact, you probably won’t commit to someone who isn’t open-minded. You need your partner to accept what you’re interested in and maybe even show a bit of interest themselves.
Sometimes with Venus in the 9th house, you want to share your spirituality with a partner. You may find philosophy or spirituality really beautiful and you’re attracted to partners who feel the same.
Venus In The 10th House
With Venus in the 10th house, you have a charming but distant aura about you. Even though people are drawn to you, they’re also a bit nervous to get too close.
You’re good at making contacts and organizing social events. You’re probably magnetic in the work place or in social circles, but you also exhibit a bit of coldness.
Venus in the 10th house means that it’s easy for you to get wrapped up in what others think of you. You want a good reputation and to be well-liked.
Sometimes, you might date “up” with Venus in the 10th house. You appeal to people who either have more power or are more successful than you. In fact, you can almost see relationships as a means to climb the ladder. However, this is often unconscious for most people with this placement.
People with Venus in the 10th house might also use their beauty or power to try and gain influence or grow in career. This depends a lot on the aspects to Venus and the sign Venus sits in.
Typically with this placement, you’re attracted to people who are also interested in career or public image, like you. It’s common for you to end up working with the people you date in some capacity. You may even change careers when you meet someone or get into a relationship through a business venture.
Ultimately, Venus in the 10th house is all about love through business. Your most “Venusian” qualities will show up in a business setting or in public.
You probably thrive at work and are diplomatic. You know how to sell yourself and win others over. You’re attractive to others, whether it’s because of looks or your personality.
Typically, you will be very successful in business with Venus in the 10th house, or at least at networking with others.
Venus In The 11th House
If you have Venus in the 11th house, you fundamentally find love through friendship.
Typically this means that you either need someone you can be friends with as well as romantically attracted to, or you need someone who accelerates your status in groups of friends, such as the leader of the group.
You’re probably very socially harmonious with Venus in the 11th house. You’re drawn to groups and group activities.
With Venus in the 11th house, you may be a bit of a chameleon. You’re good at changing depending on who you’re with, especially if your Venus is in a cardinal or mutable sign.
You probably have many friend groups or at least desire many friends; other aspects in your chart will dictate how many friends you actually tend to have.
Sometimes, your partner might feel left out because you’re so focused on friends. Your partner might feel that they’re not important and that your relationship doesn’t come first. Some people with this placement can actually feel that their friendships are more important to them than their partner.
With Venus in the 11th house, it may be hard for you to separate friendship and love. You probably spend a lot of time with the person you’re dating, even if the relationship is only casual.
However, you will have trouble falling in love if your partner doesn’t share your interests. Alternatively, you may have difficulties feeling attraction if your partner doesn’t have some sort of social status.
Sometimes, people with Venus in the 11th house are interested in more than one person at a time. This is not always the case; other aspects in the chart will need to support this.
People with Venus in the 11th house can easily jump from person to person. They don’t feel much guilt and won’t worry about hurting their past partner but focus only on the future.
You’re probably friendly but also flirty. Venus in the 11th house means that you may flirt with your friends and have trouble setting boundaries. You may not even realize you’re flirting and probably get confused when their friends develop feelings.
It can easily look like you’re leading your friends on when you truly think you’re just being friendly. A lot of people probably develop crushes on you because you’re social and charismatic.
Venus In The 12th House
With Venus in the 12th house, you get hurt in love quite easily. You often feel used by partners.
Some of this is because you aren’t very good at defining boundaries in love. It can be tough for you to figure out where you end and your partner begins.
You want a relationship but you may have trouble saying what you actually need from a relationship. Venus in the 12th house makes it hard for you to figure out what’s real and what you need.
You may have a secret element in many of your relationships with Venus in the 12th house. If you don’t actually have secret relationships, then you may need to hide your partner from your parents, your friends, etc., or hide things about your life from your partner.
There is a tendency for you to get involved in relationships that aren’t totally equal.
With Venus in the 12th house, you can also get caught up in your fantasies of the past. Sometimes, you create an idea of a partner in your head and fail to see what’s right in front of you. It can be difficult for you to confront the truth when things change.
You probably fear being alone, at least during your early years, and you may have the tendency to get into a relationship just for the sake of having someone.
Love and sacrifice go hand-in-hand for you. With Venus in the 12th house, your partner may become your world quite quickly. You’re serious about romance but you can also start living for your partner shortly after meeting them.
In fact, you may feel like you always have to give something up to be with your partner. It’s hard for you to find love without sacrifice.
With Venus in the 12th house, it’s important for you to develop a sense of self worth and boundaries. Venus is all about love, but it can also represent self love.
You have the opportunity to discover self love through Venus in the 12th house instead of looking for it from others. Work on Picean, 12th house qualities such as self-care, shadow work, and meditation to build your confidence and heal your inner child.
Other Venus Signs:
Although you can technically cast a spell anywhere, I like to set the mood
when I’m practicing. This isn’t always necessarily, but it does help me get into the vibe of the magic.
When I’m feeling witchy, I’m actually able to gather stronger energy. This is true for most witches; you at least want to get into the tone of the spell you’re casting subconsciously and unconsciously to create something really powerful.
Beginner witches generally don’t have many tools or a full on spell work room to use, but these things aren’t always necessary. There are many ways to add the “witchy vibe” into a setting without spending much/any money.
Here are my 5 favorite ways to create a witchy atmosphere during spell work!
Some witches like to work in silence while others prefer music. I find that a good playlist helps me get into the witchy mood for spell work.
I actually have a few different playlists for when I practice. One is more Irish with haunting melodies while another is boho and has a lot of Fleetwood Mac. I also have a playlist with edgier tunes for spell work that’s more intense/dark.
If you’re interested in playing music while you practice, spend a bit of time and put together a good playlist. Make sure that it’s cohesive and goes with the vibe of the spell that you’re casting.
It’s pretty awful to have to stop in the middle of a spell and find a different song; this can totally kill the mood. I recommend that you put together your playlist before casting your circle so you don’t get interrupted!
If you’re struggling to get into the vibe of your spell work then playing music is a great first step. I fall into a trance much more quickly when music is on, especially when the songs resonate with me on that particular day.
Setting the witchy mood is all about the senses. Smell is really important, even subconsciously, and helps me stay focused during spell work.
My favorite way to get into spell work when it comes to smell is by burning incense. I choose my incense scent based on what I actually like and what scents go with the spell I’m casting.
When I’m practicing, I burn incense from beginning to end, so I like to have a lot on hand.
If you purchase incense online, make sure that your incense sticks are high quality. I have bought some truly terrible incense off of Amazon that smelled totally synthetic, like a bad perfume. This is a great store on Etsy that sells affordable incense sticks.
Bring In The Elements
Engaging the senses during spell work is important but so are the elements. After all, the fundamentals of witchcraft are centered around the four elements.
I like to bring each element into my space before I begin practicing. On a visual and spiritual level, I feel that having a balance of the elements keeps me focused and alert. The elements also help me ground my energy more effectively.
For example, I place a plant on the table I’m working on (earth) as well as a cup of water or indoor fountain (water), a series of lit candles (fire), and incense (air). I sometimes use a fan for air instead if I want a lot of flow, or I’ll open the window if there’s a summer breeze outside.
You can choose whatever you’d like to represent the elements. Make sure that you feel a connection to each and that you have somewhat balanced ratios between the elements, although this doesn’t need to be perfect. You can also include more of one specific element if you feel it’ll help you based on the spell you’re casting.
Make A Mini Alter
Some witches have a set alter that they use every time they practice. Personally, I’m a bit more fluid. I like to use the coffee table in my living room while practicing and I put away my tools in between.
Regardless, setting up your alter is always a good way to incorporate that witchy vibe into your practice. You can do this with a set alter or with a simple table that you’ll be using for only an hour.
I like to spread a cloth out on my alter (I use something like this), place candles around the corners, and add in tokens that mean something to me. Sometimes I include a crystal ball or Tarot cards, other times I choose a bowl of salt, figurine, or crystals.
You can put as many or as few things on your alter as you’d like. I recommend that you keep an eye out while shopping for things that appeal to you. These certainly don’t have to be expensive pieces, but they should be the items that help to set the mood.
The more you’re able to feel witchy, the stronger your energy will grow. This means that your spells will be more effective. Everything here has a purpose!
Dress The Part
Lastly, I like to dress a certain way when I’m practicing. It really helps me get in the mood!
You’ll generally find me doing spell work in black leggings, a black crew neck, and black socks. I like to be comfortable but also prefer wearing black so that my energy is like a blank slate.
Of course, everyone is different! Some witches like dressing up (edgy, trendy, Victorian, etc.) depending on the spell they’re casting. Others like to be comfortable. Some witches like color and color associations for certain spells while others always dress in black, white, or neutral tones.
Figure out what type of clothing works for you. It’s OK if you have to try out a few different things!
I do feel that clothing is pretty important because everything during spell work has some kind of association, so the way you look and feel will add specific energy to your practice.
I hope this post helps you brainstorm ways to bring in that “witchy vibe” during spell work. Happy casting!
Venus in Capricorn can be a bit removed and serious, but there are many wonderful elements to this placement.
Typically, Venus in Capricorn folks are extremely practical. They tend to do well in the real world, as long as they don’t become too business-like in relationships.
As you read these descriptions of the Venus in Capricorn placement, keep in mind that the house your Venus is in makes a difference, too.
Venus In Capricorn Characteristics
Venus rules so many areas that the characteristics of your Venus sign can have a large impact on your entire life. Here are the main ways that Venus in Capricorn shows up.
Money and Style:
With Venus in Capricorn, you prefer classic styles over anything trendy. Older is best!
While Venus in Capricorn people can be materialistic or enjoy symbols of status sometimes, others care more about quality of items.
The typical Venus in Capricorn is known for being extremely materialistic, but I don’t feel that this is always the case. I find that a Venus in Capricorn individual is either materialistic or practical.
Most folks with Venus in Capricorn are really practical with possessions and money. It’s always a safe bet to let these people handle your finances. They typically don’t spend beyond their means unless other elements of the chart support this.
With Venus in Capricorn, you aren’t a party animal by any means. You may be less “fun-loving” than others.
Much of this is because you’re distrustful of others, so it’s hard for you to open up and let loose.
Another element of your serious personality is your practicality. Venus in Capricorn is all about being down-to-earth and efficient; in fact, you may even find more pleasure in hard work than in a typical party atmosphere.
You have long term goals and are grounded and realistic. Most Venus in Capricorn folks steer clear of anything flashy.
However, with Venus in Capricorn, you do have an inner child “locked up.” When you’re super comfortable around someone, your inner child comes out and you can be quite silly and playful. This happens rarely and may be surprising to people when they first see it.
With Venus in Capricorn, you value structure and order. You believe in setting rules and then following them. You will especially value rules in the house that your Venus sits in.
Depending on the house that Venus is in, you might also value hard work. For example, with Venus in the 10th house, you value hard work and status, but with Venus in the 7th house, you value putting the work into relationships.
You probably place significance on things that sustain over time with Venus in Capricorn. You won’t go for the quick fix but instead value long term investments when it comes to money, people, your job, and more.
With materialistic items, you prefer older, quality pieces. You don’t like super trendy or new things but would rather have a historical item.
Venus in Capricorn usually means that you were born into a family with parents who adhered to a certain set of conduct rules. You were probably forced to behave a certain way, especially socially.
If you deviated as a child, you were made to feel guilty or bad. Vulnerabilities and affection were probably not priorities. Instead, you needed to follow the rules and maintain appearances.
Some families focused more on appearances while others were simply forced to follow a strict set of rules.
Now, you may still operate within this value system, however it will be important to develop your own set of values as you grow.
You won’t necessarily need to show these values to others, but it is still integral that you figure out what matters to you.
With Venus in Capricorn, you have a very practical view of attraction. You don’t get caught up in the happy “first feelings” of love but instead see the reality of the other person.
You notice red flags quite easily when someone is flashy but has no real substance. You’re attracted to the sterner stuff that’s underneath the pomp and circumstance.
Once you’re getting to know someone, you probably value the traditional roles of courtship. You’re like to go slow and wait before jumping into a relationship.
Sometimes, you might be attracted to someone with a respectable position, a good reputation, wealth, or fame. Other folks with Venus in Capricorn are captivated by potential partners with a sense of practicality and a good work ethic.
When you’re first getting to know someone, you keep a lot of your thoughts and emotions private. You may come off as cold or removed, but you tend to attract folks who enjoy this distance or see it as flirtatious.
Others might think that you’re unfeeling because you won’t give your heart away to someone who doesn’t measure up to your criteria. You move slow and are discerning.
With Venus in Capricorn, you’re more of a doer than a talker. When you’re attracted to someone, they will know from your actions.
You have a quiet confidence or security that attracts others. You can be a bit awkward initially, but you have a cool confidence underneath. Others are attracted to this esteem in you.
In a relationship, a Venus in Capricorn will be an extremely devoted mate. These folks aren’t always warm and fluffy but they will be there when you need them.
With Venus in Capricorn, you probably see relationships as a long-term investment, so you’re strict with your vetting process when you first meet someone.
Although you know that no one is perfect, you can be quite picky and will weigh the pros and cons of a potential partner carefully.
You tend to find confident partners with Venus in Capricorn. You want someone who can handle their own life; you don’t want to “save” a tragic victim.
If you do find yourself in a relationship with someone who is too needy, you will probably distance yourself slowly and grow more detached over time.
However, you certainly have a provider instinct with Venus in Capricorn. You’re steadfast and true. You find safety in practicality and all that is known.
Your reliability as a partner is attractive to others, but when you’re actually in a relationship, it takes you a long time to open up your heart.
With Venus in Capricorn, you show your emotions and your love through actions, not words. You aren’t the most flowery romantic speaker, but you will demonstrate your love over time in a relationship.
In bed, you can actually be a bit casual if you’re single and may have many partners over time, but once you commit to someone you’re loyal. You may be quite diligent about pleasing your partner and learning what they enjoy.
Venus In Capricorn: Best & Worst Qualities
People with Venus in Capricorn are hard-working and practical, but they can also be cold or aloof. They adhere to a strict set of rules; this can be both a positive and a negative.
When it comes to placements in the birth chart, there are no positives without an equally difficult quality. Sometimes, the positives are the negatives.
Keep in mind that no individual will have all of these qualities because it will depend on your specific placement (aspects, house, etc.), but many of these qualities are likely to show up in someone’s personality with Venus in Capricorn.
- Emotionally Self-Contained
- Good With Money
- Emotionally Cold
Venus In Capricorn: Man vs. Woman
This part can get a little confusing, so bear with me as I explain it. Basically, Venus shows itself differently for someone with more masculine energy than it does for someone with more feminine energy.
It’s up to you to choose with energy you identify with more. If you’re unsure, I recommend reading the description of each energy for Venus in Capricorn below and choosing what resonates with you.
Generally, in a woman or someone with feminine energy, Venus will show how the person acts and what vibes they gives off towards others.
When this person is flirting, they will assume many of the qualities of Venus in Capricorn. These Capricorn qualities will show up directly in the personality.
In a man or someone with masculine energy, Venus will show what kind of qualities they are attracted to. How this person will act depends on their Mars sign, but their Venus sign dictates what types of energy they are drawn towards in a partner.
As we evolve and change and the gender lines blur, these distinctions become less absolute. For example, I find that most women will show a lot of the qualities of their Venus when they’re flirting, but a few of their Mars qualities will bleed through also.
It’s important to learn about both Venus and Mars. Each person has a unique combination of both qualities, although this combination may be swayed slightly depending on the person’s gender.
Lastly, a man who is ultra-comfortable with his sexuality will display many more of his Venus qualities, while a man who struggles with his sexuality probably won’t “own” these Venusian qualities, so he will instead look for them in a female partner.
In bed, he will probably display more of his Mars signs, but he will also have a touch of Venus. With Venus in Capricorn, this men will be practical and focused in bed. He won’t get caught up in romantic fantasies but will instead focus on the actual technique.
He may come across as unemotional, but his actions speak louder than his words. The Venus in Capricorn man wants actions instead of words from his partner, too.
The Venus In Capricorn Man:
The Venus in Capricorn man is interested in serious and responsible women.
He won’t be attracted to anyone too emotional or talkative. He will also steer clear of superficiality or unpredictability. He likes women who are down to earth and practical.
The Venus in Capricorn man wants a pragmatic woman who focuses on work first. Sometimes, he will want someone modest and old-fashioned, while other times he will prefer someone with status or business-sense. This will depend on the house and aspects.
When the Venus in Capricorn man first meets someone, he is attracted to a strong inner energy and quiet confidence.
Because he desires someone so practical, he is willing to be quite patient in a relationship. The Venus in Capricorn man will stick it out through the hard times; he doesn’t run away easily.
He’s likely to stay loyal in a relationship, even if the relationship turns sour. He may be a bit slow to give his heart away, but once he does, he’s all in.
Because he takes so long to commit, he can also be really hurt in a relationship if it falls apart.
The Venus In Capricorn Woman:
The Venus in Capricorn woman finds safety and comfort in what she knows. She doesn’t adapt to change quickly.
She comes across as cool, aloof, detached, or maybe even a bit snobby when she’s flirting. She isn’t fun and outgoing. Instead, her partners will be attracted to her emotionally removed vibe.
The Venus in Capricorn woman is very picky. She may get into relationships later in life or she might be unsatisfied with her earlier relationships. She hates immaturity more than anything.
In relationships, the Venus in Capricorn woman goes slow and steady. She is careful not to get hurt.
Once her defenses are down, the Venus in Capricorn woman will be warm and tender, but this may take quite a while.
She needs a lot of independence in a partnership. The Venus in Capricorn woman probably won’t be interested in partying and going out, but she does need room to have her own interests and space.
The Venus in Capricorn woman is very practical. Her idea of fun probably involves work in some way. She may have trouble keeping love interests around because of how practical and/or ambitious she is, unless her partners feel the same way.
She can be a bit old-fashioned, classy, or even a little prudish. Alternatively, sometimes the Venus in Capricorn woman is snobby and materialistic. This is less likely than the first scenario, but it is possible depending on the house and aspects to Venus.
If the Venus in Capricorn woman gets dumped, she will never show how she really feels. She is very good at putting on a blank face and hiding her hurt, but it can take her a long time to get over heartbreak internally.
In bed, the Venus in Capricorn woman can be a bit reserved until she feels totally comfortable. Some Venus in Capricorn women are prudes while others are less closed in actions, but are still a bit reserved, quiet, or even cold.
How To Master The Venus In Capricorn Energy
With Venus in Capricorn, you will need to work on integrating your emotions with your rules.
Learn that it’s OK to break the social conduct code once in a while. A good place to start is by examining your childhood rules and figuring out which ones you personally like and which you want to throw out.
Develop your own internal set of rules that is created by you, not others. Make sure your own set of rules works for you.
The work for any Venus in Capricorn person will be a lot of small steps. These folks need to figure out what they want because they’re so used to being told what to do.
The goal for the Venus in Capricorn person is to let the inner child out.
Other Venus Signs:
Famous People With Venus In Capricorn:
- Brad Pitt
- Steve Jobs
- Britney Spears
- Scarlett Johansson
- Miley Cyrus
- Elvis Presley
- Jim Carrey
- Bradley Cooper
- The Weeknd
- Michael Jordan
- Frank Sinatra
- Ludwig van Beethoven
- Pablo Escobar
- Walt Disney
- Fyodor Dostoyevsky
- Grigori Rasputin
- John F. Kennedy, Jr.
- Kid Cudi
- Virginia Woolf
- Danny Devito