In astrology, the moon is associated with your emotional landscape, intuition, and protective instincts. Clearly, the moon is an important planet in relationships and therefore in synastry charts.
When the moon aspects your partner’s ascendant, you should take a look at that aspect. The ascendant changes sign so quickly that this is truly an important aspect.
Today, we’ll be going over each moon-ascendant aspect in the synastry chart.
Moon Conjunct Ascendant Synastry
The moon conjunct ascendant synastry relationship is definitely emotional, especially for the moon individual. The ascendant person will naturally trigger a lot of deeply held emotions in the moon person.
However, the ascendant person won’t even realize that they’re doing this – they are simply being themselves. It’s just their way of presenting themselves that will trigger the moon person and cause them to react. Most likely, this is because the ascendant person specifically triggers the moon person’s deeply held childhood insecurities.
Something about the ascendant person’s mask reminds the moon person of how they feel inside. The moon might feel the way the ascendant person acts but they don’t show it.
Unlike other astrologers, I don’t personally find that the moon conjunct ascendant synastry aspect promotes emotional comfort in a relationship. Instead, this aspect usually triggers the moon.
However, there can be some pros to this moon conjunct ascendant synastry relationship. The moon completely understands why the ascendant wears that mask because they understand the emotions behind it. So when the ascendant person puts on their mask, when they feel uncomfortable, the moon person may be the only who truly understands.
If the moon individual is able to work through the triggers that are presented by the ascendant, then they can be uniquely suited to understand that ascendant’s inner emotions. However, if the moon person is consistently being triggered by their own emotional landscape (usually if they haven’t dealt with their childhood hurts), then they will not be able to see beyond their own pain.
Moon Trine Ascendant Synastry
The moon trine ascendant synastry aspect is harmonious. Typically, the ascendant person feels comfortable around the moon person regardless of how well they know each other. There isn’t any awkwardness when they first meet because the moon person just gets the ascendant person’s mask.
Conversation will usually flow between these two, even if neither is especially outgoing. The moon trine ascendant synastry aspect is an easy one and is supportive in any relationship since the moon person especially understands the ascendant person.
The impact of this moon trine ascendant synastry aspect will depend on how the ascendant person acts in conversation. If the ascendant person is quite outgoing, then this will feel less impactful. However, if the ascendant person has a “quieter” mask, then this easy flow between the two people will feel much more important.
The moon trine ascendant synastry aspect is much less triggering for the moon individual; instead, they’re able to sense the emotions of the ascendant person and put them at ease.
Moon Sextile Ascendant Synastry
The moon sextile ascendant synastry aspect means that the moon person has the opportunity to understand the emotions behind the ascendant’s mask. They can learn why the ascendant person presents themselves in a certain way and can figure out what emotions are hiding under that mask.
This can be a great aspect in a relationship because, if the moon person is willing to dive in and truly understand the ascendant person, they can become a source of emotional support. This is especially helpful in large groups when the ascendant person feels the need to don their mask.
Often, the moon sextile ascendant synastry aspect develops slowly, over time. As the moon person learns more about the ascendant person’s emotional landscape and why they present themselves a certain way, the relationship will flow more easily.
However, the moon person should be careful that they don’t start to feel like a caretaker. They can support the ascendant’s emotions without trying to fix them.
Keep in mind that this moon sextile ascendant synastry aspect simply presents an opportunity. If the moon person does not engage, then this aspect will not be activated.
Moon Opposition Ascendant Synastry
The moon opposition ascendant synastry aspect can actually be quite beneficial. The moon represents the shadow side of the ascendant person, meaning that the moon person intuitively understands the deeper, darker, hidden emotions of the ascendant person, the feelings that others don’t see. For that reason, this relationship can feel a bit like a soul connection, as though these two have known each other before.
If the ascendant person is evolved emotionally, then they will probably appreciate that the moon is able to see these deep emotions. Once they have integrated their shadow side, they have a lot to discuss and always feel supported by the
This can go a few ways. If the ascendant person is evolved, then they will probably appreciate this about the moon. Once they have integrated their shadow side they will have a lot to discuss with the moon and will feel supported in showing this new side of themselves because the moon person just gets it. They will be able to slowly reveal their deepest emotions to the moon and feel understood and supported.
However, if the ascendant hasn’t done any work to integrate their shadow side and is actively running from those deeper emotions, then they might be annoyed or triggered every time they glimpse their shadow through the moon. They will either snap in anger or run (fight or flight).
Typically, the moon opposition ascendant synastry aspect indicates that the ascendant person sees the moon as the ideal partner in some ways, or at least the archetype of their own personal ideal partner. This is because the descendant represents the ideal parter as well as the shadow self. The longevity of this relationship will depend on how comfortable the ascendant person is with their own shadow side that is reflected in the moon.
It is important in the moon opposite ascendant synastry relationship that the moon person doesn’t become too much of a caretaker for the shadow self of the descendant. They can certainly be a nurturing figure but they must ultimately let the ascendant person discover and work through their darker, shadow-self emotions on their own.
Moon Square Ascendant Synastry
With the moon square ascendant synastry aspect, the moon person simply cannot understand why the ascendant person dons their mask. They simply can’t grasp the emotions/triggers/reasons that push the ascendant person to become this public persona.
The moon person might also have trouble understanding what the ascendant person wants in a partner since this aspect is also moon square descendant synastry. The ascendant person’s ideal partner image just doesn’t make sense to the moon person on a deep, emotional level.
The moon square ascendant synastry aspect can be difficult because the ascendant person might feel misunderstood or judged for how they act, especially how they act when they’re feeling insecure/in groups. And the moon person definitely doesn’t provide a soft place for the ascendant person to land as they’re working through their shadow side.
It’s important that the moon person makes more of an effort to be gentle and soft, especially with their partner’s shadow side and deeper emotions. They must learn that they don’t have to understand these deep emotional hurts to be kind and soft. For this moon square ascendant synastry relationship to work, the moon person must learn to be sensitive, even when this doesn’t feel natural. Otherwise, the ascendant individual will feel perpetually unsafe in the relationship.
Meanwhile, the ascendant person must try to understand that the way they present themselves, their mask, triggers something uncomfortable in the moon person. It brings up emotions that the moon person might struggle to deal with.
So if you are the ascendant individual, try to understand that your public persona will rub your partner wrong. This isn’t personal – your outward personality and actions are just triggering something about the moon person’s insecurities in themself. It’s uncovering those feelings from childhood that the moon person would rather not look at.
The mature couple can see what’s happening in the moon square ascendant synastry relationship, though it’s still difficult because they both experience hard emotions and don’t necessarily understand each other’s vulnerabilities. Worse, they might judge each other for those vulnerabilities.
But it is only by clear communication about their own insecurities that this relationship can work. Both people must try to step outside themselves and understand the other’s feelings, even if those emotions are not ones they have experienced themselves.