Chiron is the Wounded Healer, so this asteroid signifies our core wound that we develop from an early age. While Chiron can be pretty difficult, it’s also so useful to know your own Chiron and explore the wound in order to heal it.
If you have Chiron in Cancer, you have an especially difficult wound that comes from family, however keep in mind that there is always a silver lining! Those with Chiron in Cancer can end up being incredible parents, aunts and uncles, or even just extremely loving people if they’re able to work through this wound.
The Chiron In Cancer Wound
The Chiron in Cancer wound is the core belief that one are unlovable and have been abandoned.
This person is often wounded by family in some way. There is some sort of early childhood family trauma that leads to core feelings of loneliness, emotional pain, or emptiness.
This person usually does feel that love exists but may not be able to find it. They may also think that they’re just unworthy of it and have extremely low self-esteem.
Usually, this wound comes from a lack of nurture in childhood.
- Chiron in Aries: Lack Of Self
- Chiron in Gemini: The Wound Of Words
- Chiron in Taurus: The Fear Of Loss
How This Wound Will Show Itself
This wound will show itself one of two ways.
In the first scenario, the person with Chiron in Cancer will withdraw from love. They will only pursue relationships with unattainable people (or those who are definitely not interested), which only reinforces the idea that they are unlovable.
They may fantasize about people who they can never have a successful relationship with or they may live the single life indefinitely.
In this scenario, the person might also technically enter into relationships but refuse to actually open up. They are so afraid of losing nurture (as they did in childhood) that they never try to get it in the first place. This person’s fear of loss is the main issue here, but this stems from the original wound.
Alternatively (in the second scenario), the person will go overboard nurturing others. They may smother their partners and friends and become the typical needy Cancer individual who is looking for emotional attention and validation 24/7.
The native with Chiron in Cancer has a constant, nagging feeling of emptiness; they search for ways to fill this hole up. They often over-idealize partners by putting them on a pedestal in order to distract from their own inner turmoil, but they have extremely painful breakups when these relationships inevitably fail.
When a relationship does end, the person will feel as though they have lost everything. They don’t know how to exist without the other person because they used the relationship to compensate for their own wound.
Those with Chiron in Cancer are especially vulnerable around family. This hole inside them feels extra painful around family members and they may act different to try and gain any sort of praise, attention, love, etc., when what they are really seeking is nurture and acceptance.
They will probably go to any lengths to get love from other people, especially family and intimate friends. They may pretend to be someone they’re not, self-sacrifice for others, boat, lie, or delude themselves about who the other person is. The thing that matters most to these natives is replacing the hole inside themselves with love.
Where Does the Wound Come From?
This wound almost always comes from early experiences with family. Often, this person has core issues with the mother, but the house that Chiron is in will show the initial wounding more clearly. It is also possible to have this placement due to the father or family in general.
Look to the person’s childhood and see if there is some emotional malnourishment, abandonment, or even abuse.
Regardless of if the person’s attitude towards the parent in question is marked by idealization or by contempt. If they have lost their one of their parents early on, for any reason, they are inclined towards idealization; if they were abandoned, they are inclined towards disappointment and contempt. May also swing back and forth
How to Heal Chiron in Cancer
The Chiron in Cancer person’s instinct is to avoid or bandaid the pain, but this is only a temporary fix. Instead, they will need to go through the pain.
More than any other placement, Chiron in Cancer requires therapeutic-like work to heal. If traditional therapy isn’t an option (although I do feel that a good therapist can help a native with this placement make leaps and bounds), then I recommend looking to books or YouTube videos.
You’ll want to search for material that aids in healing family issues, mother issues, codependency, working with attachment styles, and developing boundaries.
It’s hard work, but it’s incredibly worth it to heal Chiron in Cancer. Because this person has so much pain and has successful worked through it, they can be some of the most loving and caring people on the earth.